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Why parents must involve boys in house chores just like girls

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Nigerians from all walks of life on Sunday expressed their views on the need for parents to get boys involved in doing house chores.

They told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Abuja, that allowing only the girl child to do the house chores, while the boys play football or other games, was “old fashioned”.

Some believe that involving the male child in house chores would instil discipline and responsibility in them. The Executive Director, of Administration, of Every Life Matters Foundation, Benjamin Obasi, advised parents to invest time in training their male children to become responsible adults.

Obasi said that society had invested so much time to train and educate the girl child in terms of house chores and neglected the boy child to become a nuisance. According to him, no girl child will be abused if the boy child gets adequate home training.

“Doing house chores are part of the training a boy child should undergo. It is bad to make them grow up with the mentality that a girl child is less valuable,” he said.

On his part, John Atomore, an activist, said it was important to involve the male child in house chores because chores are not gender-based.

“It is a form of training for the boy child, who will live alone some day before starting a family.

“Parents should encourage the male child by making them understand that house chores are not a gender role, but a survival skill.

“When a male child is involved in chores, he will not know whether certain duties are meant for a girl child or not.

“He gains satisfaction in doing it himself when he is used to it,” he said.

Similarly, Bisiola Adeyanju, a mother of one, said that she has a male child and was going to train him to be a responsible adult to himself, family and society.

“A male child should be involved in chores immediately he can differentiate between left and right.

“We need to involve them early to reduce gender bias in the society because home, they say, is where charity begins.

“The male child should see chores as a normal life responsibility,’’ Adeyanju stated.

Ezeabasili Okwudili, a civil servant, said that involving male children in household chores would help break gender stereotypes.

“It will promote equality, and teach important life skills like responsibility, empathy and teamwork.

“It sets a foundation for more equitable relationships and domestic responsibilities in the future.

“My mother involved me in house chores as early as pre-school age. I was washing my socks,” he added.

Okwudili said that helping with laundry could instil a sense of responsibility and contribute to the child’s overall development. He said as the child grows older, the parent could gradually increase the complexity of the chores assigned to him.

“One way to encourage a male child to take ownership of his chores is by involving him in the decision-making process.

“As a parent, we should provide positive reinforcement and praises for his efforts,” he noted.

Okwudili added that setting clear expectations and offering the child rewards for completing chores could also motivate him. He also urged parents to lead by example and show appreciation for their contributions.

Also, Mmesomachi Anyanwu, a teacher, said that parents could involve a male child in chores by putting them in charge of their toys.

“Chores like this send the message to your child that his contribution is important.

“Boys need to learn some housework because, eventually, they are going to be on their own.

“There is nothing as pathetic as a grown man who does not know how to wash his clothes,” he said.

Anyanwu said that chores were training for house responsibilities as adults. He identified the major tasks to include cleaning dishes and sorting out clothes for washing. He opined that these were basic life skills for the upkeep and maintenance of a home, which everyone needed to know.

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5 Davido songs that capture his love story with Chioma

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Davido and Chioma’s relationship attracted massive public attention as fans eagerly kept with every detail of the affair between the award-winning artist and celebrity chef.

Like several musicians, Davido tends to use his music to celebrate his romantic relationship as several songs carry heartfelt lyrics that suggest it was crafted with Chioma in mind.

From the outpouring of emotions in ‘Assurance’ where he openly declared his undying love for Chioma to adulating her in ‘No Competition’, Davido has recorded hit songs that capture his love affair.

Released in 2018, ‘Assurance’ was an open declaration of Davido‘s relationship with Chioma. The song was an instant smash hit with its title “Assurance” becoming a popular term on social media.

Davido’s famous lines “Love is sweet but when money enters love is sweeter,” have continued to be a recurring rhetoric on the impact of money in relationships.

Davido has always made it clear that money is not a problem. He restated this in ‘1 Milli’ where he expresses his readiness to pay a $1 million dowry for his love interest. The music video captures the colourful imagery of a Nigerian traditional wedding and gives fans a glimpse of what it would be like when Davido and Chioma tie the knot.

Davido created ‘Wonder Woman’ to celebrate the women in his life and other great women who have made an impact in different sectors of society. Among the women he celebrated was his fiancée Chef Chioma in a heartwarming moment that showcased their love.

With ‘Jowo’, Davido crafted a song that appeals to lovers of all ages. The heartfelt lyrics and earnest plea of a man with his heart on his sleeves suggest this is a song personal to Davido and inspired by his love for Chioma.

One of the songs on his record-breaking fourth album ‘Timeless,’ Davido rolled out the superlatives for his love interest as he made it clear that no one compares to her.

The song suggests a rededication of Davido’s love and commitment to Chioma especially in the face of the trying moments that preceded the album’s release.

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‘I denied you sex, not access to our child’ — Sophia Momodu replies Davido

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June 24, 2024 10:48 am

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Sophia Momodu, the baby mama of Davido, has responded to a lawsuit filed against her by the singer over the custody of Imade Adeleke, their daughter.

The Afrobeats star filed a motion through Olaniyi Arije and Okey Barrah, his lawyers, at the Lagos high court on April 17, 2024.

He is seeking a court order granting him “unfettered and unrestricted access” to Imade who is aged nine.

The singer also alleged that he had been responsible for Imade’s education, housing, transportation, living expenses, health care, and periodic travel.

Responding to Davido’s lawsuit, Momodu argued that she has never denied the singer access to their daughter.

The fashion entrepreneur, in a statement dated June 22, 2024, and issued by her legal representatives Punuka Attorneys & Solicitors and Bimpe Ajegbomogun & Co., however, claimed Davido “repeatedly threatened” to make her life “miserable” if she does not make herself “available to him sexually”.

“David Adeleke and Sophia Momodu were in a relationship from 2014-2017 and 2020-2022. During this time, David provided financial support for their daughter, covering school fees, rent, and other living expenses, including the cars mentioned in the article,” the statement partly reads.

“Sophia ended the relationship with David in July 2022. Since then, David has repeatedly threatened to make Sophia’s life miserable if she does not make herself available to him sexually.

“Sophia has never denied David access to their daughter, only access to her body and intimacy, which he has taken issue with. David is in a publicly known relationship, and Sophia wishes him well. She seeks to move forward in her life free from harassment and verbal abuse.”

Davido’s lawsuit seeking child custody follows a tumultuous history between him and Momodu.

In January, Momodu threatened to sue the singer for alleged cyberbullying and harassment.

In 2023, she revealed plans to change Imade’s surname to hers, claiming she has been both mother and father to their daughter.

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I will never split bills 50/50 with my wife, says IK Osakioduwa

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Media personality IK Osakioduwa has opened up about his financial philosophy in his marriage, asserting that he will never split bills with his wife.

The TV show host recently appeared as a guest on the Toke Moments podcast hosted by Toke Makinwa, speaking on his successful career as a media personality. While there, he clarified his stance on financial matters within his marriage to his wife Olohije Osakioduwa, stressing that he doesn’t have his wife paying bills like school fees.

He said to Toke, “I’m not a big baller and I’m not claiming to be one of those guys who has all the money in the world, but I’m not looking into my wife’s pocket for anything.”

Ik added, “It’s like being in the gym, she may see that ‘IK’s money is a bit slow today’ and she may come in to do something. I don’t ask it of her but she may come in to do something ans it’s nice to see but I will never ask it of her. Once some time has passed I’m giving her back the money sharply. It’s just the better way to operate, it’s my system and I know everybody’s system is different.”

He acknowledged that while there are men who evenly split household bills with their wives, he does not do such.

“I know many guys who are going 50/50 with their wives. I will never ever in my life go 50/50, my wife doesn’t even know how much the kid’s school fees are. She knows but she’s never once had to bring money out to say that she’s paying school fees and she will never,” he stressed.

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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

She has widespread experiences across different professions and skills, which includes experiences in; Marketing, Media, Broadcasting, Brand and Event Management, Administration and Management with prior stints at MTN, NAPIMS-NNPC, GLOBAL FLEET OIL AND GAS, LTV, Silverbird and a host of others

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