Relationships
5 biggest distractions in relationships
Do you notice that your partner isn’t as committed to the relationship as they used to be?
Your partner may seem distracted and distant. You might have asked what was wrong, but they said nothing. Yet you’ve noticed significant changes.
What could be causing this distraction? Here are the biggest relationship distractions:
1. Technology & social media
Do you find yourself scrolling through social media and laughing at TikTok videos while your partner is right there?
Constantly using social media and gadgets like video games can create a significant rift in a relationship, leaving your partner feeling neglected and distant.
For men, football season can cause a lot of distraction and space in a relationship.
It’s important to disconnect from technology and focus on quality time with your partner.
You could also pick an activity involving technology you both love like sharing reels on Instagram or TiktTok and playing videos games with each other.
2. Work pressure
If your partner is stressed at work or is faced with a lot of pressure, they can withdraw from you.
Balancing a demanding job or career with a relationship can be exhausting, leaving little time or energy for your partner.
Work stress causes tension and affects the quality of time spent together.
3. Friends and an active social life
If you are always hanging out with the ‘boys’ or the ‘girls’, that will barely leave any time for the relationship.
While friendships should not be neglected, putting too much emphasis on social activities outside of the relationship might lead to neglect of your partner.
This might lead to feelings of jealousy or insecurity.
4. A past relationship or a new crush
A recent or past ex can be a major distraction in a relationship.
Whether through past traumas, maintaining contact, or any form of communication, exes can become significant distractions.
If these distractions persist, trust can be eroded, leading to the relationship’s demise.
If they meet someone new who they fancy, they may spend considerable time trying to win their affection, and that just means less time for you.
5. Financial worries
Relationships can be strained due to financial concerns, debt, or money issues.
When one person is worried about their financial situation; it can keep couples from enjoying life and their partner’s companionship.
How to get over the distractions
Prioritize your partner.
It’s important to make time for your partner by scheduling special dates, outings and activities so you can spend quality time with each other.
If these issues arise in a relationship, it’s important to address them openly and make necessary changes.
Failure to do so can lead to the relationship’s downfall.
Relationships
5 thoughtful gifts to get your partner for Christmas
You know how we do in Naija when Christmas is just around the corner. This is the season of jollof rice, family vibes, and, of course, amazing gifts.
Now let’s be real when it comes to gifts. People are tired of boring and occasional gifts like Ankara fabrics, bland gift cards, and hampers, as these things fade away as soon as they are consumed. So this year let’s talk about five thoughtful gifts that’ll blow your partner’s mind and make this Christmas one for the books. These aren’t just gifts; they’re pure vibes.
Here are 5 thoughtful gifts to get your partner for Christmas.
1. Personalised jewellery
First up, we’ve got personalised jewellery. Trust me, this one hits every single time. Personalised gifts like this show your partner that you’ve put thought and effort into it.
Think about a necklace with their name, a bracelet engraved with your anniversary date, or a cute ring with a special message like “My Babe Forever.” Whether they wear it to Sunday service or flex it at a wedding, personalised jewellery is not just a gift; it’s a memory they carry with them.
There are plenty of Naija jewellers who can customise something stunning for you. Add a nice box and a handwritten note, and you’ve got yourself a top-tier gift that screams, “I care about you.”
2. Experience gifts
Sometimes, we just need a break from the daily hustle and city heat and traffic, and that’s why experience gifts are such a vibe.
It could be a weekend staycation in a luxury hotel, tickets to a Burna Boy or Asake concert, or even a relaxing spa date to help them recover from the December rush. For the adventurous ones, how about paragliding in Jos or hiking in Obudu?
It’s not just the experience itself; it’s the memories you create together. And trust me, you’ll be in their good books for a long, long time.
3. Custom photo book
Now this one is pure romance that brings back all the beautiful memories. Imagine creating a custom photo book filled with all the memories you and your partner have shared. From the cute selfies you took during your first date to the epic road trips or even those funny moments during wedding prep.
You can add captions like, “This was when we got stuck in Ajah traffic for five hours!” or “Our first beach date in Tarkwa Bay.” It’s more than just a gift; it’s your relationship in a book.
And the best part is that the memories are sweet, sentimental, and priceless. You can sit down together, flip through the pages, and laugh over all the memories.
4. Subscription boxes
Another perfect gift for your partner this Christmas season is a subscription box. Imagine your partner receiving a surprise package every month. It’s like Christmas 12 times a year.
From gourmet Nigerian snacks (think plantain chips, chin chin, and cashew nuts) to skincare products or even fitness gear, there’s a subscription box for everyone.
5. Handwritten love letters
In this digital age of WhatsApp messages and emojis, handwritten love letters are seriously underrated. Remind them why you fell in love, recount your favourite memories, and share your dreams for the future. You could even hide these letters in unexpected places—tuck one in their handbag or slide another under their pillow.
The beauty of a handwritten letter is that it lasts forever, even long after Christmas; your partner can pull it out, read it, and feel all warm and fuzzy. You can also add some local touches, like using Ankara stationery or a traditional wax-sealed envelope, and another gift, such as a photo album or a piece of jewellery.
Selecting a thoughtful gift for your partner this Christmas does not have to be difficult. These suggestions, ranging from personalised jewellery to handwritten love letters, emphasise the significance of effort and sentiment in gift-giving. The best gifts reflect your particular connection, making this season not just joyous but unforgettable.
Relationships
Tiwa Savage opens up about her divorce from TeeBillz
Tiwa Savage, the Nigerian singer, has opened up about her divorce from Tunji ‘TeeBillz‘ Balogun, her ex-husband.
The duo divorced in 2018 after efforts to resolve the differences in their marriage proved abortive.
In an interview with The Receipts Podcast, the ‘Kele Kele’ hitmaker revealed that her ex-husband was responsible for the divorce.
The award-winning songstress said at the time, she was struggling with postpartum depression after giving birth to their son.
The 44-year-old singer said she faced intense criticism from the public, with many attacking her without giving her a chance to share her side of the story.
She also recalled how some prominent figures advised her to remain silent about the incident to protect her reputation.
“When I came out, I was Nigeria’s sweetheart when I started and I could do no wrong in Nigerian’s eyes. I did everything by the book. I went to university and I wasn’t a baby mama. I got married then I had a baby so I did everything in the right order and everybody loved me and then everything happened,” she said.
“Then I started getting hate from blogs and I started getting hate from certain people. The way our situation happened, he announced it online. I didn’t break up with him but I was the one being attacked.
“At the time, my baby was just a few months old and I was dealing with postpartum and my body wasn’t the same and I was depressed. Everyone then went to him and only a few people came to see me.
“After I interviewed to tell my side of the story, it got worse. People were like ‘How dare you go and talk’ ‘You’re a woman and you’re supposed to build the house, it’s your fault’.
“I remember famous people calling me to ask how I could tell my side of the story cuz I’d never win. Ever since then, I was like I won’t ever talk about the situation because it was very heartbreaking how the public took it and blamed me.”
She added that the experience was an “eye-opener” that made her become “wild and carefree”.
“It was an eye-opener for me and it made me depressed for so long. It got me angry then I became the ‘African Bad Girl’,” she added.
“I thought to myself that after doing everything right I was still attacked. Then I started getting tattoos and wearing short skirts and bikini. I was just wild.”
Relationships
Actress Etinosa Idemudia remarries in Lagos
Etinosa Idemudia, the Nigerian actress, has tied the knot again, this time with a white man.
Etinosa took to her Instagram page to share a video of herself and her lover, whose name and nationality are yet to be revealed.
In the accompanying caption, the actress wrote, “I don carry my two left enter new relationship. Please wish me well ❤️ 💍”.
In another Instagram post on Thursday, Etinosa shared a photo from their legal wedding ceremony held at the Ikoyi Registry in Lagos.
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