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Five signs you’re spoiling your kids

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Raising children is undoubtedly a complex and challenging task, and every parent wants to do their best to ensure their child grows up happy, healthy, and well-adjusted. However, some parents may inadvertently spoil their children in the quest to provide the best for their kids.

Spoiling a child can have long-term negative consequences on their development, behaviour, and ability to cope with life’s challenges.

Below, we will explain five common ways parents might spoil their children and strategies to avoid these pitfalls.

  1. Giving in to every demand
    When parents constantly give in to their child’s demands, they teach the child that they can get whatever they want, whenever they want.

This behaviour can lead to a sense of entitlement and a lack of appreciation for the value of things.

However, this may lead to the child developing unrealistic expectations and becoming easily frustrated when they don’t get their way.

It can also hinder the child’s ability to handle disappointment and build resilience.

Control tactics:
Set boundaries: Establish and enforce rules and limits as a parent. Explain to your child why they cannot always have what they want.
Teach delayed gratification: Encourage your child to wait for certain things and understand saving and earning rewards.

  1. Overprotecting
    While it’s natural to want to protect your child from harm, excessive protection can prevent them from learning to handle challenges and setbacks independently.

Therefore, the child may develop anxiety or fear when faced with new situations.

They might also need more problem-solving skills and confidence in their abilities.

Control tactics:
Encourage independence in them: Allow your child to take on age-appropriate responsibilities and make their own decisions.
Let them fail: Permit your child to experience failure and learn from their mistakes. Only offer support and guidance rather than solving problems for them.

  1. Not enforcing consequences
    When parents fail to enforce consequences for misbehaviour, children learn that their actions do not have repercussions.

This can lead to a lack of respect for rules and authority.

Hence, the child may develop behavioural problems and struggle with self-discipline.

They might also need help in school and social settings where rules and borders are essential.

Control tactics:
Constant discipline: Implement consistent and fair consequences for misbehaviour. Ensure that the child understands the link between their actions and the consequences.
Give positive reinforcement: Encourage good behaviour with positive reinforcement, such as praise or rewards, to promote accountability.

  1. Overindulging with material possessions
    Providing children with excess toys, gadgets, and other material possessions can lead to a sense of materialism and a lack of appreciation for what they have.

The child may develop a constant desire for more, never feeling satisfied with what they have.

Also, they might need help understanding the value of money and hard work.

Control tactics:
Limit gifts
Encourage gratitude from them:

  1. Failing to teach responsibility
    When parents do everything for their children, they miss important lessons about responsibility and self-sufficiency.

This can limit the child’s development of essential life skills.

This may result in the child becoming overly reliant on others to meet their needs and might cause them to struggle with basic tasks and responsibilities as they grow older.

Control tactics
Assign chores: To help your child develop a sense of responsibility, give your child chores and responsibilities around the house appropriate for their age.
Teach self-care skills: Encourage your child to take care of their own needs, such as dressing themselves, making their bed, and packing their school bag.
These are five signs you’re spoiling your child as a parent.

By recognising and addressing these common ways of spoiling or harming a child, parents can help their children grow into well-rounded, responsible, and resilient individuals.

However, there is always time to make positive changes and guide your child towards a healthier and more balanced upbringing.

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5 thoughtful gifts to get your partner for Christmas

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December 21, 2024 8:47 am

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You know how we do in Naija when Christmas is just around the corner. This is the season of jollof rice, family vibes, and, of course, amazing gifts.

Now let’s be real when it comes to gifts. People are tired of boring and occasional gifts like Ankara fabrics, bland gift cards, and hampers, as these things fade away as soon as they are consumed. So this year let’s talk about five thoughtful gifts that’ll blow your partner’s mind and make this Christmas one for the books. These aren’t just gifts; they’re pure vibes.

Here are 5 thoughtful gifts to get your partner for Christmas.

1. Personalised jewellery

First up, we’ve got personalised jewellery. Trust me, this one hits every single time. Personalised gifts like this show your partner that you’ve put thought and effort into it.

Think about a necklace with their name, a bracelet engraved with your anniversary date, or a cute ring with a special message like “My Babe Forever.” Whether they wear it to Sunday service or flex it at a wedding, personalised jewellery is not just a gift; it’s a memory they carry with them.

There are plenty of Naija jewellers who can customise something stunning for you. Add a nice box and a handwritten note, and you’ve got yourself a top-tier gift that screams, “I care about you.”

2. Experience gifts

Sometimes, we just need a break from the daily hustle and city heat and traffic, and that’s why experience gifts are such a vibe.

It could be a weekend staycation in a luxury hotel, tickets to a Burna Boy or Asake concert, or even a relaxing spa date to help them recover from the December rush. For the adventurous ones, how about paragliding in Jos or hiking in Obudu?

It’s not just the experience itself; it’s the memories you create together. And trust me, you’ll be in their good books for a long, long time.

3. Custom photo book

Now this one is pure romance that brings back all the beautiful memories. Imagine creating a custom photo book filled with all the memories you and your partner have shared. From the cute selfies you took during your first date to the epic road trips or even those funny moments during wedding prep.

You can add captions like, “This was when we got stuck in Ajah traffic for five hours!” or “Our first beach date in Tarkwa Bay.” It’s more than just a gift; it’s your relationship in a book.

And the best part is that the memories are sweet, sentimental, and priceless. You can sit down together, flip through the pages, and laugh over all the memories.

4. Subscription boxes

Another perfect gift for your partner this Christmas season is a subscription box. Imagine your partner receiving a surprise package every month. It’s like Christmas 12 times a year.

From gourmet Nigerian snacks (think plantain chips, chin chin, and cashew nuts) to skincare products or even fitness gear, there’s a subscription box for everyone.

5. Handwritten love letters

In this digital age of WhatsApp messages and emojis, handwritten love letters are seriously underrated. Remind them why you fell in love, recount your favourite memories, and share your dreams for the future. You could even hide these letters in unexpected places—tuck one in their handbag or slide another under their pillow.

The beauty of a handwritten letter is that it lasts forever, even long after Christmas; your partner can pull it out, read it, and feel all warm and fuzzy. You can also add some local touches, like using Ankara stationery or a traditional wax-sealed envelope, and another gift, such as a photo album or a piece of jewellery.

Selecting a thoughtful gift for your partner this Christmas does not have to be difficult. These suggestions, ranging from personalised jewellery to handwritten love letters, emphasise the significance of effort and sentiment in gift-giving. The best gifts reflect your particular connection, making this season not just joyous but unforgettable.

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Tiwa Savage opens up about her divorce from TeeBillz

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December 20, 2024 8:20 am

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Tiwa Savage, the Nigerian singer, has opened up about her divorce from Tunji ‘TeeBillz‘ Balogun, her ex-husband.

The duo divorced in 2018 after efforts to resolve the differences in their marriage proved abortive.

In an interview with The Receipts Podcast, the ‘Kele Kele’ hitmaker revealed that her ex-husband was responsible for the divorce.

The award-winning songstress said at the time, she was struggling with postpartum depression after giving birth to their son.

The 44-year-old singer said she faced intense criticism from the public, with many attacking her without giving her a chance to share her side of the story.

She also recalled how some prominent figures advised her to remain silent about the incident to protect her reputation.

“When I came out, I was Nigeria’s sweetheart when I started and I could do no wrong in Nigerian’s eyes. I did everything by the book. I went to university and I wasn’t a baby mama. I got married then I had a baby so I did everything in the right order and everybody loved me and then everything happened,” she said.

“Then I started getting hate from blogs and I started getting hate from certain people. The way our situation happened, he announced it online. I didn’t break up with him but I was the one being attacked.

“At the time, my baby was just a few months old and I was dealing with postpartum and my body wasn’t the same and I was depressed. Everyone then went to him and only a few people came to see me.

“After I interviewed to tell my side of the story, it got worse. People were like ‘How dare you go and talk’ ‘You’re a woman and you’re supposed to build the house, it’s your fault’.

“I remember famous people calling me to ask how I could tell my side of the story cuz I’d never win. Ever since then, I was like I won’t ever talk about the situation because it was very heartbreaking how the public took it and blamed me.”

She added that the experience was an “eye-opener” that made her become “wild and carefree”.

“It was an eye-opener for me and it made me depressed for so long. It got me angry then I became the ‘African Bad Girl’,” she added.

“I thought to myself that after doing everything right I was still attacked. Then I started getting tattoos and wearing short skirts and bikini. I was just wild.”

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Actress Etinosa Idemudia remarries in Lagos

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December 20, 2024 8:04 am

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Etinosa Idemudia, the Nigerian actress, has tied the knot again, this time with a white man.

Etinosa took to her Instagram page to share a video of herself and her lover, whose name and nationality are yet to be revealed.

In the accompanying caption, the actress wrote, “I don carry my two left enter new relationship. Please wish me well ❤️ 💍”.

In another Instagram post on Thursday, Etinosa shared a photo from their legal wedding ceremony held at the Ikoyi Registry in Lagos.

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