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‘Shut up’, ‘you’re a failure’… seven words you should never say to your partner

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In every relationship no matter how beautiful, there’s bound to be conflicts of interest between the two parties involved.

With conflicting interests, arguments occur. But arguments and misunderstandings can be properly managed with the right amount of civility and objectivity from both parties involved.

To handle conflict maturely, certain words and phrases must be avoided. This is because words are powerful; leaving a lasting impression on the subconscious of our loved ones. It is important therefore, to remain calm during arguments or during a misunderstanding and carefully select the words we use.

For longer lasting relationships, avoid using these seven phrases with your partner;

Shut Up

The phrase, ‘shut up’ tends to fly around easily during arguments. Usually, in the heat of the moment, blurting out this hurtful phrase is an attempt at imposing an end to the discussion on your partner.

Asides being hurtful, ‘shutting your partner up’ is highly disrespectful as it implies you have little regard for their opinion and what they have to say at that moment.

Should you feel reluctant to engage in an argument or discussion with your partner, simply suggest to them politely that you’d rather have that conversation on a later time.

I Wish I Never Dated You

Saying these words or ‘i wish i never married you’ to your partner begets serious repercussions even when said ‘harmlessly’.

Similarly, blurting out comparisons between your partner and your ex for instance, is completely foul and disrespectful. Never for instance, say things, “I wish you could be more like [insert ex’s name]”.

You’re a Failure

Nobody deserves to be humiliated because they do not meet your expectations for them least of all, your lover. If you feel your partner is a failure, you probably have no business dating them in the first place.

Of course, this doesn’t mean it’s inappropriate to encourage your beau/belle to do better. In fact, being a force of raw and uncut honesty and support system for your partner whenever they flop is a blessing. But in doing so, being sympathetic, patient, and loving is sure to drive your partner into doing better.

You’re an Idiot

Along with every other curse word or phrase is a huge no, no. Should you feel frustrated, or hurt by your partner, convey your feelings to them respectfully.

You’re Too Fat/Skinny

As ‘helpful’ as you may feel uttering this to your partner, this is pure suicide. Bodyshaming isn’t restricted to harsh or over-dramatic comments alone. Telling your partner they are too fat or thin is a sure ticket to letting them know you do not appreciate them just the way they are.

Truly depressing

If for medical reasons, you’re concerned about your partner’s weight, book them an appointment with a medical specialist and support them the best way you can.

I’m Leaving You

In whatever form aid, this phrase should be avoided unless actually meant.

Avoid threatening or emotionally blackmailing your partner with threats of divorce or break up. It’s not only a sad attempt at getting their attention, but also a seed that when germinated, could actually lead to an actual separation.

I’m Sorry But

Uttering this phrase to your partner, negates your apology. By including ‘but’ in an apology, you’re indirectly half-assing an apology to your partner.

This means that despite your wrongdoings towards them, your actions are justifiable. Not a great move if you plan on making your relationship work.

Sure these are not the only words to avoid saying to your partner as there are a number of similarly abominable words and phrases.

In learning how to accurately communicate with your beau/belle, insist on treating them first with respect, decency, and love no matter the situation.

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Ashanti confirms pregnancy as she announces engagement to Nelly

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Ashanti, an American singer and songwriter, has turned to Instagram to announce her engagement to rapper Nelly.

She also announced that they are expecting a kid together.

This comes after they reignited their relationship last year.

The pair announced their engagement and pregnancy to Essence.

“This new year of my life is such a blessing full of love, hope, and anticipation,” Ashanti told the outlet. “Motherhood is something that I have looked forward to, and sharing this with my family, fiancé, and loyal fans, who have been so supportive of my career, is an amazing experience.”

The “Foolish” singer also posted a video on social media advertising her and Nelly’s brand, Proov, which offers an at-home pregnancy test. In the footage, Ashanti appears to be getting ready to walk onstage when someone asks how much time she will need.

See the video below.

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‘I didn’t do it’ — Korra Obidi kicks as ex-husband accuses her of cheating during pregnancy

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Korra Obidi, the Nigerian dancer, has denied a claim by Justin Dean, her ex-husband, that she cheated on him while pregnant with their second child.

In a video, Dean said Korra traveled to Nigeria for a friend’s wedding when she was five months pregnant.

He alleged that Korra slept with her friend’s fiance. He also shared what he claimed to be chats between his ex-wife and the man.

“Korra, my ex-wife went to Nigeria for her friend’s wedding and slept with this woman’s fiance, while she was 5 months pregnant with our daughter,” he said.

“I was so upset when I found out that she has been sleeping around. It was very risky. She could have contracted SDTs while she was pregnant. That is a big deal.”

Reacting to Dean’s claim of infidelity in an Instagram post on Wednesday, Korra she “did not do it”.

“Long story short, I didn’t do it. If you believe, your papa papaaa,” she wrote.

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Simi and Adekunle Gold made me regret being single, says Tiwa Savage

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Nigerian singer and songwriter Tiwa Savage has stirred reactions online as she reveals how Simi and her hubby Adekunle Gold make her regret being single.

Note that Simi and Tiwa Savage recently made headlines in the Nigerian music industry as the top singers released a new song together dubbed “Men are Crazy.”

However, following the release of the new song, Tiwa Savage used the opportunity to narrate her experience with Tiwa Savage while at the studio.

According to Tiwa Savage while she was in the studio with her colleague, Simi her husband Adekunle Gold always calling and checking on her all the time.

Speaking further, Tiwa Savage utters that Adekunle Gold can call Simi 10 times every 10 minutes stressing that their love is still burning fresh just like yesterday.

Tiwa Savage said;

“While on set with Simi I had to ask her when she met Adekunle Gold again. Coz AG kept calling & checking on her every now and then, like 10 times in 10 minutes hahaha. Their love is still burning fresh like they started just yesterday. Omo, na that day single life pain me…”

Simi and Adekunle Gold made me regret being single, says Tiwa Savage
Simi and Adekunle Gold made me regret being single, says Tiwa Savage
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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

She has widespread experiences across different professions and skills, which includes experiences in; Marketing, Media, Broadcasting, Brand and Event Management, Administration and Management with prior stints at MTN, NAPIMS-NNPC, GLOBAL FLEET OIL AND GAS, LTV, Silverbird and a host of others

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