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Five signs you’re spoiling your kids

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Raising children is undoubtedly a complex and challenging task, and every parent wants to do their best to ensure their child grows up happy, healthy, and well-adjusted. However, some parents may inadvertently spoil their children in the quest to provide the best for their kids.

Spoiling a child can have long-term negative consequences on their development, behaviour, and ability to cope with life’s challenges.

Below, we will explain five common ways parents might spoil their children and strategies to avoid these pitfalls.

  1. Giving in to every demand
    When parents constantly give in to their child’s demands, they teach the child that they can get whatever they want, whenever they want.

This behaviour can lead to a sense of entitlement and a lack of appreciation for the value of things.

However, this may lead to the child developing unrealistic expectations and becoming easily frustrated when they don’t get their way.

It can also hinder the child’s ability to handle disappointment and build resilience.

Control tactics:
Set boundaries: Establish and enforce rules and limits as a parent. Explain to your child why they cannot always have what they want.
Teach delayed gratification: Encourage your child to wait for certain things and understand saving and earning rewards.

  1. Overprotecting
    While it’s natural to want to protect your child from harm, excessive protection can prevent them from learning to handle challenges and setbacks independently.

Therefore, the child may develop anxiety or fear when faced with new situations.

They might also need more problem-solving skills and confidence in their abilities.

Control tactics:
Encourage independence in them: Allow your child to take on age-appropriate responsibilities and make their own decisions.
Let them fail: Permit your child to experience failure and learn from their mistakes. Only offer support and guidance rather than solving problems for them.

  1. Not enforcing consequences
    When parents fail to enforce consequences for misbehaviour, children learn that their actions do not have repercussions.

This can lead to a lack of respect for rules and authority.

Hence, the child may develop behavioural problems and struggle with self-discipline.

They might also need help in school and social settings where rules and borders are essential.

Control tactics:
Constant discipline: Implement consistent and fair consequences for misbehaviour. Ensure that the child understands the link between their actions and the consequences.
Give positive reinforcement: Encourage good behaviour with positive reinforcement, such as praise or rewards, to promote accountability.

  1. Overindulging with material possessions
    Providing children with excess toys, gadgets, and other material possessions can lead to a sense of materialism and a lack of appreciation for what they have.

The child may develop a constant desire for more, never feeling satisfied with what they have.

Also, they might need help understanding the value of money and hard work.

Control tactics:
Limit gifts
Encourage gratitude from them:

  1. Failing to teach responsibility
    When parents do everything for their children, they miss important lessons about responsibility and self-sufficiency.

This can limit the child’s development of essential life skills.

This may result in the child becoming overly reliant on others to meet their needs and might cause them to struggle with basic tasks and responsibilities as they grow older.

Control tactics
Assign chores: To help your child develop a sense of responsibility, give your child chores and responsibilities around the house appropriate for their age.
Teach self-care skills: Encourage your child to take care of their own needs, such as dressing themselves, making their bed, and packing their school bag.
These are five signs you’re spoiling your child as a parent.

By recognising and addressing these common ways of spoiling or harming a child, parents can help their children grow into well-rounded, responsible, and resilient individuals.

However, there is always time to make positive changes and guide your child towards a healthier and more balanced upbringing.

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We are family – Rapper DDG addresses breakup with actress Halle Bailey

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Days after announcing that he and his child’s mother, Halle Bailey, broke up, DDG has addressed the backlash he received on social media over the news.

Speaking on a recent episode of the No Ordinary podcast, the rapper emphasised that their split is a natural part of life and insisted that he and Halle remain family.

He said, “I have announced that me and Halle have split up, right? It’s life , it happens, she’s still family and I love her to death no matter what. Everything is still good and you never know what the future holds. Anything past that statement is nobody’s business.”

He expressed frustration over the speculation surrounding their breakup, noting that he was aware of the narratives being spun about him and the Little Mermaid actress.

DDG explained, “I have seen people creating stories, timelines and stuff. Nobody was wrong in this situation; nobody has come out to say he did this or she did that, no! Me and Halle are family and we are good; we’re just taking a little break; we don’t know what can happen in the future.”

“Beyond that statement is none of your business but y’all keep going. I go through my comments, mentions and DMs, and I see people who have no idea what’s going on talking,” he added.

“I don’t know anything about your life and you don’t know anything about mine, you know just a tiny bit because I allowed you to. When public figures give you a statement, take the statement and mind your business,” he concluded.

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10 things to consider before marriage

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Getting married is a big life decision that needs to be well thought out and planned. While romance and love are important, they’re not the only things to take into account while forming a lasting relationship. It’s important to assess the basis of your relationship and make sure you’re both on the same page before making the move.

In this article, we’ll explore the top 10 things to consider before getting married. By thoughtfully evaluating these key aspects, you can set yourself up for a strong, happy, and fulfilling marriage that will last a lifetime.

Compatibility: For any marriage to succeed, compatibility is essential. Examining their compatibility before marriage is necessary for couples Compatibility encompasses values, interests, beliefs, hobbies, and goals compatibility. Emotional compatibility is also important between intending couples. Conflict may arise, for instance, if one partner is more laid back and indifferent to honesty and integrity, while the other does.

Communication: Effective Communication is an essential ingredient for a happy marriage. Communication helps people to understand each other and reduce the number of conflicts they might have. So the question is “Can you communicate effectively, honestly, and respectfully with each other?”

Biological compatibility: Intending couples need to consider pre-marital tests and screenings for Sexually transmitted diseases, genotype compatibility, Rhesus compatibility and fitness of the reproductive organs. It is important to undergo these tests and ensure compatibility before marriage.

Financial stability: Discussions about Money matters should be prioritised by intending couples. You both need to outline your savings and financial goals, any incurred debt, any plans for investment, and the plan you have for managing your finances together. Would you be having a joint account, personal account, or both?

Family and friends: You need to consider each other’s families and how involved they would be in your married life. How will your marriage affect your relationships with family and friends? Would there be a significant change due to religious differences, values differences, or other differences? You also need to understand the family background of your intended spouse and how it has helped form them into what they are.

Children: it is essential for intending couples to discuss the number of children they envision having together or if they don’t want to have children. They also need to discuss on how they intend to raise the children together and their future plans because having children is a huge responsibility to handle and needs adequate preparation.

Personal growth: Will your marriage allow for personal growth, independence, and individuality? Marriage is a process of growth and progress on a personal level. Partners must make a commitment to each other’s personal growth and development. This entails helping one another realise their goals and aspirations. For instance, both partners must consent if they wish to go back to school to finish their degree.

Conflict resolution: Conflict resolution is all about repairing situations. People resolve problems in different ways however how will you and your partner resolve conflicts and disagreements in a healthy and constructive way? There would be disagreement between partners but couples need to handle them in the most effective and amicable way.

Commitment: Marriage involves being committed to someone for life. You and your partner need to be ready for it. You both need to be fully committed to the marriage and willing to work through challenges together. Trust and commitment work both ways and it’s needed in every relationship. The question of ‘how well you trust your partner’ needs to be answered.

Realistic expectations: Do you have realistic expectations about marriage and each other, and are you prepared for the ups and downs of life together? Couples need to have the same goals and aspirations for their future together. This comprises objectives such as career, family, and personal development.

Marriage is a beautiful journey, but it requires effort, understanding, and compromise from both partners. Considering these factors can help you build a strong foundation for a happy and fulfilling marriage.

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DDG and Halle Bailey split — 11 months after welcoming first child

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DDG, the US rapper, has announced his separation from Halle Bailey, the Hollywood actress and singer.

In an Instagram story, the rapper, whose real name is Darryl Dwayne Granberry Jr., disclosed the split was a mutual decision between them.

DDG, 26, said even though the decision is not easy, it is the “best path forward for both of us”.

He added that despite the split, they are still “best friends” and will now focus on co-parenting their child.

“After much reflection and heartfelt conversations, Halle and I have decided to go our separate ways,” he wrote.

“This decision was not easy, but we believe it’s the best path forward for both of us. I cherish the time we’ve spent together and the love we’ve shared.

“Despite the changes in our relationship, our love for each other remains deep and true. We are still best friends and adore each other.

“As we focus on our individual journeys and our roles as co-parents, we cherish the bond we’ve build and the beautiful moments we’ve shared.

“As we navigate this transition, we ask for your understanding and support.”

The duo became public with their romantic relationship in January 2022.

They share a son Halo, who was born in December 2023 after Halle, 24, kept her pregnancy a secret for months.

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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

She has widespread experiences across different professions and skills, which includes experiences in; Marketing, Media, Broadcasting, Brand and Event Management, Administration and Management with prior stints at MTN, NAPIMS-NNPC, GLOBAL FLEET OIL AND GAS, LTV, Silverbird and a host of others

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