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10 things to consider before marriage

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Getting married is a big life decision that needs to be well thought out and planned. While romance and love are important, they’re not the only things to take into account while forming a lasting relationship. It’s important to assess the basis of your relationship and make sure you’re both on the same page before making the move.

In this article, we’ll explore the top 10 things to consider before getting married. By thoughtfully evaluating these key aspects, you can set yourself up for a strong, happy, and fulfilling marriage that will last a lifetime.

Compatibility: For any marriage to succeed, compatibility is essential. Examining their compatibility before marriage is necessary for couples Compatibility encompasses values, interests, beliefs, hobbies, and goals compatibility. Emotional compatibility is also important between intending couples. Conflict may arise, for instance, if one partner is more laid back and indifferent to honesty and integrity, while the other does.

Communication: Effective Communication is an essential ingredient for a happy marriage. Communication helps people to understand each other and reduce the number of conflicts they might have. So the question is “Can you communicate effectively, honestly, and respectfully with each other?”

Biological compatibility: Intending couples need to consider pre-marital tests and screenings for Sexually transmitted diseases, genotype compatibility, Rhesus compatibility and fitness of the reproductive organs. It is important to undergo these tests and ensure compatibility before marriage.

Financial stability: Discussions about Money matters should be prioritised by intending couples. You both need to outline your savings and financial goals, any incurred debt, any plans for investment, and the plan you have for managing your finances together. Would you be having a joint account, personal account, or both?

Family and friends: You need to consider each other’s families and how involved they would be in your married life. How will your marriage affect your relationships with family and friends? Would there be a significant change due to religious differences, values differences, or other differences? You also need to understand the family background of your intended spouse and how it has helped form them into what they are.

Children: it is essential for intending couples to discuss the number of children they envision having together or if they don’t want to have children. They also need to discuss on how they intend to raise the children together and their future plans because having children is a huge responsibility to handle and needs adequate preparation.

Personal growth: Will your marriage allow for personal growth, independence, and individuality? Marriage is a process of growth and progress on a personal level. Partners must make a commitment to each other’s personal growth and development. This entails helping one another realise their goals and aspirations. For instance, both partners must consent if they wish to go back to school to finish their degree.

Conflict resolution: Conflict resolution is all about repairing situations. People resolve problems in different ways however how will you and your partner resolve conflicts and disagreements in a healthy and constructive way? There would be disagreement between partners but couples need to handle them in the most effective and amicable way.

Commitment: Marriage involves being committed to someone for life. You and your partner need to be ready for it. You both need to be fully committed to the marriage and willing to work through challenges together. Trust and commitment work both ways and it’s needed in every relationship. The question of ‘how well you trust your partner’ needs to be answered.

Realistic expectations: Do you have realistic expectations about marriage and each other, and are you prepared for the ups and downs of life together? Couples need to have the same goals and aspirations for their future together. This comprises objectives such as career, family, and personal development.

Marriage is a beautiful journey, but it requires effort, understanding, and compromise from both partners. Considering these factors can help you build a strong foundation for a happy and fulfilling marriage.

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5 thoughtful gifts to get your partner for Christmas

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You know how we do in Naija when Christmas is just around the corner. This is the season of jollof rice, family vibes, and, of course, amazing gifts.

Now let’s be real when it comes to gifts. People are tired of boring and occasional gifts like Ankara fabrics, bland gift cards, and hampers, as these things fade away as soon as they are consumed. So this year let’s talk about five thoughtful gifts that’ll blow your partner’s mind and make this Christmas one for the books. These aren’t just gifts; they’re pure vibes.

Here are 5 thoughtful gifts to get your partner for Christmas.

1. Personalised jewellery

First up, we’ve got personalised jewellery. Trust me, this one hits every single time. Personalised gifts like this show your partner that you’ve put thought and effort into it.

Think about a necklace with their name, a bracelet engraved with your anniversary date, or a cute ring with a special message like “My Babe Forever.” Whether they wear it to Sunday service or flex it at a wedding, personalised jewellery is not just a gift; it’s a memory they carry with them.

There are plenty of Naija jewellers who can customise something stunning for you. Add a nice box and a handwritten note, and you’ve got yourself a top-tier gift that screams, “I care about you.”

2. Experience gifts

Sometimes, we just need a break from the daily hustle and city heat and traffic, and that’s why experience gifts are such a vibe.

It could be a weekend staycation in a luxury hotel, tickets to a Burna Boy or Asake concert, or even a relaxing spa date to help them recover from the December rush. For the adventurous ones, how about paragliding in Jos or hiking in Obudu?

It’s not just the experience itself; it’s the memories you create together. And trust me, you’ll be in their good books for a long, long time.

3. Custom photo book

Now this one is pure romance that brings back all the beautiful memories. Imagine creating a custom photo book filled with all the memories you and your partner have shared. From the cute selfies you took during your first date to the epic road trips or even those funny moments during wedding prep.

You can add captions like, “This was when we got stuck in Ajah traffic for five hours!” or “Our first beach date in Tarkwa Bay.” It’s more than just a gift; it’s your relationship in a book.

And the best part is that the memories are sweet, sentimental, and priceless. You can sit down together, flip through the pages, and laugh over all the memories.

4. Subscription boxes

Another perfect gift for your partner this Christmas season is a subscription box. Imagine your partner receiving a surprise package every month. It’s like Christmas 12 times a year.

From gourmet Nigerian snacks (think plantain chips, chin chin, and cashew nuts) to skincare products or even fitness gear, there’s a subscription box for everyone.

5. Handwritten love letters

In this digital age of WhatsApp messages and emojis, handwritten love letters are seriously underrated. Remind them why you fell in love, recount your favourite memories, and share your dreams for the future. You could even hide these letters in unexpected places—tuck one in their handbag or slide another under their pillow.

The beauty of a handwritten letter is that it lasts forever, even long after Christmas; your partner can pull it out, read it, and feel all warm and fuzzy. You can also add some local touches, like using Ankara stationery or a traditional wax-sealed envelope, and another gift, such as a photo album or a piece of jewellery.

Selecting a thoughtful gift for your partner this Christmas does not have to be difficult. These suggestions, ranging from personalised jewellery to handwritten love letters, emphasise the significance of effort and sentiment in gift-giving. The best gifts reflect your particular connection, making this season not just joyous but unforgettable.

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Tiwa Savage opens up about her divorce from TeeBillz

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Tiwa Savage, the Nigerian singer, has opened up about her divorce from Tunji ‘TeeBillz‘ Balogun, her ex-husband.

The duo divorced in 2018 after efforts to resolve the differences in their marriage proved abortive.

In an interview with The Receipts Podcast, the ‘Kele Kele’ hitmaker revealed that her ex-husband was responsible for the divorce.

The award-winning songstress said at the time, she was struggling with postpartum depression after giving birth to their son.

The 44-year-old singer said she faced intense criticism from the public, with many attacking her without giving her a chance to share her side of the story.

She also recalled how some prominent figures advised her to remain silent about the incident to protect her reputation.

“When I came out, I was Nigeria’s sweetheart when I started and I could do no wrong in Nigerian’s eyes. I did everything by the book. I went to university and I wasn’t a baby mama. I got married then I had a baby so I did everything in the right order and everybody loved me and then everything happened,” she said.

“Then I started getting hate from blogs and I started getting hate from certain people. The way our situation happened, he announced it online. I didn’t break up with him but I was the one being attacked.

“At the time, my baby was just a few months old and I was dealing with postpartum and my body wasn’t the same and I was depressed. Everyone then went to him and only a few people came to see me.

“After I interviewed to tell my side of the story, it got worse. People were like ‘How dare you go and talk’ ‘You’re a woman and you’re supposed to build the house, it’s your fault’.

“I remember famous people calling me to ask how I could tell my side of the story cuz I’d never win. Ever since then, I was like I won’t ever talk about the situation because it was very heartbreaking how the public took it and blamed me.”

She added that the experience was an “eye-opener” that made her become “wild and carefree”.

“It was an eye-opener for me and it made me depressed for so long. It got me angry then I became the ‘African Bad Girl’,” she added.

“I thought to myself that after doing everything right I was still attacked. Then I started getting tattoos and wearing short skirts and bikini. I was just wild.”

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Actress Etinosa Idemudia remarries in Lagos

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Etinosa Idemudia, the Nigerian actress, has tied the knot again, this time with a white man.

Etinosa took to her Instagram page to share a video of herself and her lover, whose name and nationality are yet to be revealed.

In the accompanying caption, the actress wrote, “I don carry my two left enter new relationship. Please wish me well ❤️ 💍”.

In another Instagram post on Thursday, Etinosa shared a photo from their legal wedding ceremony held at the Ikoyi Registry in Lagos.

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