Relationships
5 reasons office romance is a bad idea and you shouldn’t engage in it
There are some things you must know before you even think of falling for a coworker.
Work romance can sound fun because of all the sneaking around and the “we shouldn’t be doing this” situations you’ll constantly find yourself entangled in.
But do you know that the disadvantages outweigh the benefits? Office romance is not all lovey-dovey, rainbows, sunshine and “god-whens” from colleagues. There are some things you can never get back once you get entangled in an office romance, and it messes things up for you. How, you ask? I’ve laid it all out for you:
It could affect your performance
Consequently, being in the same office with that person will have an impact on your performance. Instead of completely focusing on work, they’ll occupy your thoughts because of their proximity.
You might get distracted and be more interested in rubbing one or two off in the restroom with this person which is also risky. After you breakup, the situation worsens; you’ll feel sullen, sad, and heartbroken, and the person will be a constant reminder of that pain. On the not-so-bright side, you might get fired because you can’t handle work and heartbreak.
There are unavoidable rumours and gossip
Workplace romance never stays between two people. People will always gossip. As soon as the word gets out, all eyes will be on you and the person you are dating. Everyone will have an opinion about your love life – not a great paparazzi. The constant gossip from your work colleagues may be too much to handle, which will in turn affect the relationship. To worsen it all, if you are dating your boss or a senior at work, your fellow colleagues can get extremely jealous about the perks you are getting or the favoritism you might receive. Don’t assume that you are surrounded by extremely nice and open-minded people who won’t intrude. For peace of mind, it’s best to avoid stepping foot into these muddy waters.
Most of the time, your feelings are just pure lust
It’s quite common to feel physically attracted to people in the same profession with similar interests. You might find common topics to talk about or develop a certain chemistry, but in most cases, it’s merely physical attraction, and nothing more.
If it doesn’t work out, you’ll see your ex every day
Breaking up is the worst of it all. When the relationship comes to an end, you find yourself in a predicament – having to see your ex-partner every single day, surrounded by colleagues who were aware of your dating history. It will be very awkward and uncomfortable.
On top of that, if you didn’t initiate the breakup, moving on would be almost impossible. You will see them every day and, as a result, miss them every day, which makes it even harder to get over. To compound matters, if your ex gets into another relationship with somebody from the same office, your worries triple. It gets even worse. If you were the one who ended the relationship, and your ex was a senior at work, prepare to be in a very uncomfortable spot as they will unleash their frustration on you professionally. In extreme cases, they could even push you to consider resigning. It’s best to avoid testing the waters altogether.
There could be dispute in the office
After a breakup in the office, people often take sides. There will be people supporting the other party, which can cause unwarranted malice and even disrupt the workflow. Imagine needing to collect documents from Mr. A or Mrs. B, but because you feel uncomfortable about the breakup, you skip that part of the work or ask someone else to talk to them on your behalf.
Annoying, right? Even their closest office friends may think twice before talking to you, adding to the stress. Gradually, the entire office environment turns hostile. It never ends well.
Do well to steer clear of office romances. Don’t mix business with pleasure.
You might be thinking that you can escape all the above-mentioned points because you are best at keeping secrets, but believe you me, e go cast.
You won’t be able to hide your relationship in your office. Get that straight and quench any fire that’s igniting for your work colleague. Allow what you’ve read here to sink in until you find yourself saying, “Nah, it’s not worth it.”
Let work be work and love be kept outside of the workplace.
Relationships
5 thoughtful gifts to get your partner for Christmas
You know how we do in Naija when Christmas is just around the corner. This is the season of jollof rice, family vibes, and, of course, amazing gifts.
Now let’s be real when it comes to gifts. People are tired of boring and occasional gifts like Ankara fabrics, bland gift cards, and hampers, as these things fade away as soon as they are consumed. So this year let’s talk about five thoughtful gifts that’ll blow your partner’s mind and make this Christmas one for the books. These aren’t just gifts; they’re pure vibes.
Here are 5 thoughtful gifts to get your partner for Christmas.
1. Personalised jewellery
First up, we’ve got personalised jewellery. Trust me, this one hits every single time. Personalised gifts like this show your partner that you’ve put thought and effort into it.
Think about a necklace with their name, a bracelet engraved with your anniversary date, or a cute ring with a special message like “My Babe Forever.” Whether they wear it to Sunday service or flex it at a wedding, personalised jewellery is not just a gift; it’s a memory they carry with them.
There are plenty of Naija jewellers who can customise something stunning for you. Add a nice box and a handwritten note, and you’ve got yourself a top-tier gift that screams, “I care about you.”
2. Experience gifts
Sometimes, we just need a break from the daily hustle and city heat and traffic, and that’s why experience gifts are such a vibe.
It could be a weekend staycation in a luxury hotel, tickets to a Burna Boy or Asake concert, or even a relaxing spa date to help them recover from the December rush. For the adventurous ones, how about paragliding in Jos or hiking in Obudu?
It’s not just the experience itself; it’s the memories you create together. And trust me, you’ll be in their good books for a long, long time.
3. Custom photo book
Now this one is pure romance that brings back all the beautiful memories. Imagine creating a custom photo book filled with all the memories you and your partner have shared. From the cute selfies you took during your first date to the epic road trips or even those funny moments during wedding prep.
You can add captions like, “This was when we got stuck in Ajah traffic for five hours!” or “Our first beach date in Tarkwa Bay.” It’s more than just a gift; it’s your relationship in a book.
And the best part is that the memories are sweet, sentimental, and priceless. You can sit down together, flip through the pages, and laugh over all the memories.
4. Subscription boxes
Another perfect gift for your partner this Christmas season is a subscription box. Imagine your partner receiving a surprise package every month. It’s like Christmas 12 times a year.
From gourmet Nigerian snacks (think plantain chips, chin chin, and cashew nuts) to skincare products or even fitness gear, there’s a subscription box for everyone.
5. Handwritten love letters
In this digital age of WhatsApp messages and emojis, handwritten love letters are seriously underrated. Remind them why you fell in love, recount your favourite memories, and share your dreams for the future. You could even hide these letters in unexpected places—tuck one in their handbag or slide another under their pillow.
The beauty of a handwritten letter is that it lasts forever, even long after Christmas; your partner can pull it out, read it, and feel all warm and fuzzy. You can also add some local touches, like using Ankara stationery or a traditional wax-sealed envelope, and another gift, such as a photo album or a piece of jewellery.
Selecting a thoughtful gift for your partner this Christmas does not have to be difficult. These suggestions, ranging from personalised jewellery to handwritten love letters, emphasise the significance of effort and sentiment in gift-giving. The best gifts reflect your particular connection, making this season not just joyous but unforgettable.
Relationships
Tiwa Savage opens up about her divorce from TeeBillz
Tiwa Savage, the Nigerian singer, has opened up about her divorce from Tunji ‘TeeBillz‘ Balogun, her ex-husband.
The duo divorced in 2018 after efforts to resolve the differences in their marriage proved abortive.
In an interview with The Receipts Podcast, the ‘Kele Kele’ hitmaker revealed that her ex-husband was responsible for the divorce.
The award-winning songstress said at the time, she was struggling with postpartum depression after giving birth to their son.
The 44-year-old singer said she faced intense criticism from the public, with many attacking her without giving her a chance to share her side of the story.
She also recalled how some prominent figures advised her to remain silent about the incident to protect her reputation.
“When I came out, I was Nigeria’s sweetheart when I started and I could do no wrong in Nigerian’s eyes. I did everything by the book. I went to university and I wasn’t a baby mama. I got married then I had a baby so I did everything in the right order and everybody loved me and then everything happened,” she said.
“Then I started getting hate from blogs and I started getting hate from certain people. The way our situation happened, he announced it online. I didn’t break up with him but I was the one being attacked.
“At the time, my baby was just a few months old and I was dealing with postpartum and my body wasn’t the same and I was depressed. Everyone then went to him and only a few people came to see me.
“After I interviewed to tell my side of the story, it got worse. People were like ‘How dare you go and talk’ ‘You’re a woman and you’re supposed to build the house, it’s your fault’.
“I remember famous people calling me to ask how I could tell my side of the story cuz I’d never win. Ever since then, I was like I won’t ever talk about the situation because it was very heartbreaking how the public took it and blamed me.”
She added that the experience was an “eye-opener” that made her become “wild and carefree”.
“It was an eye-opener for me and it made me depressed for so long. It got me angry then I became the ‘African Bad Girl’,” she added.
“I thought to myself that after doing everything right I was still attacked. Then I started getting tattoos and wearing short skirts and bikini. I was just wild.”
Relationships
Actress Etinosa Idemudia remarries in Lagos
Etinosa Idemudia, the Nigerian actress, has tied the knot again, this time with a white man.
Etinosa took to her Instagram page to share a video of herself and her lover, whose name and nationality are yet to be revealed.
In the accompanying caption, the actress wrote, “I don carry my two left enter new relationship. Please wish me well ❤️ 💍”.
In another Instagram post on Thursday, Etinosa shared a photo from their legal wedding ceremony held at the Ikoyi Registry in Lagos.
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