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Eight signs you should walk away from your relationship

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Deciding whether or not to end a relationship can be really tough. When most people are in love, their decisions are understandably influenced by their heart, not the brain. This may result in a situation where many fail to quickly become aware that they are in unsatisfying and toxic relationships.

Should you end your relationship? Here are eight signs you should.

You want completely different things

The start of a relationship is usually rosy, fun and exciting. After a while, the butterflies start to fade and both parties begin to truly know each other. Discovering that you and your partner are going in opposite directions and want different things in life may hurt — especially if you’re already in love with them.

You may be tempted to stay with the hope that you’ll want similar things later on, but more often than not, that never happens. Along the line, these differences will start to cause friction between the both of you. It’s better to let go as soon as you discover your paths don’t align.

You’re unhappy in the relationship

If being in the relationship makes you sad, moody, and makes you wonder what it will feel like to be single again, it may be time to leave.

A relationship should make you happy — even if not every time — and provide you with many great memories. One that does the exact opposite is not great for your mental health.

Your partner cheats on you

A cheating partner should ideally be a deal-breaker. In a situation where the relationship has lasted for a long time, years maybe, it could be difficult to let go when you find out your partner constantly cheats on you.

However, ask yourself if staying in the relationship is really worth it. Is your partner only remorseful because he/she was caught? Will you ever be able to trust again? In most cases, remaining in the relationship after your partner cheats is not a good idea.

There’s no trust

Trust is amiss in a relationship if you say you’re going out with friends, but your partner doesn’t believe you. Or your partner says they have to cancel a date because they’re sick, but you don’t believe them.

Without trust, a relationship cannot grow and will constantly feel hard to be in. There are many reasons for a lack of trust in a relationship. Sometimes it’s because your partner has given you reason(s) not to trust them in the past. Whatever it may be, if trust is non-existent, it may be better to go your separate ways.

You’re always falling for others

There will always be someone more attractive than your partner and so it’s normal to crush on someone else at some point. But if you find yourself falling for others all the time, it may be because you don’t really love your partner.

If this is the case, please let them go to avoid hurting them someday by cheating.

You break up and reconcile often

Many couples, especially those who have been in a relationship for a long time, may have broken up and gotten back together at some point. That is probably nothing to worry about. What is worrisome, however, is if a couple does this over and over.

Repetitive breakups could mean there are issues you will never be able to overcome. It may also mean the couple is not compatible. If you’re in this situation, you might want to save yourself from more wasted time and just end things once and for all.

You’re not yourself

Do you tiptoe around your partner? Are you always worried about what you say around them? Do you have to act like a completely different person around them? If yes, you may need to rethink being in that relationship.

A healthy relationship shouldn’t make you feel alien to yourself. You should be able to confidently be you without fear.

They put you down with their words

One’s partner is supposed to be their cheerleader and supporter. If you find that you’re always at the receiving end of some insulting or condescending comment from your partner, then that relationship needs to end.

Choosing to ignore it and stay will only do damage to your self-esteem and prevent you from doing a lot of things you should. If you were looking for a clear sign to end things, this is it!

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Olajumoke Onibread narrates how ex-husband assaulted and ruined her career

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Olajumoke Orisaguna, the Nigerian model famously known as Olajumoke Onibread, has recounted her harrowing experience with domestic abuse.

Olajumoke rose to fame in 2016 after accidentally walking into a photo shoot with British rapper Tinie Tempah, captured by TY Bello. However, she disappeared from the public eye, leaving many wondering about her whereabouts.

In a recent interview with City FM, Olajumoke alleged that she endured a toxic relationship with her ex-husband Sunday Orisaguna.

She said they lived in Ire, Osun state before she relocated to Lagos. The model described the environment at their Ire home as “hostile”, citing her mother-in-law’s “mistreatment” and Sunday’s “physical abuse”.

She said after relocating to Lagos, she started hawking bread before crossing paths with TY Bello. She said Sunday, however, joined her in Lagos, and the alleged abuse continued.

Olajumoke said she felt ashamed to deny claims of marriage due to their two children. She claimed that her career suffered after their separation, alleging that Sunday maligned her reputation and that of her supporters.

“The time we were in Ire, we stayed in my husband’s family house and there is no way you stay in that kind of place that you would not encounter problems. My mother-in-law was very hostile towards me and I would have to close my hairdressing shop on time just so I could go make dinner at home,” she said.

“And it was whatever she told her son is what he listens to. He would not even listen to my own side of the story before he started beating me up. Whenever me and his mother had misunderstandings, he would not even listen to me before hitting me. He would beat me to the extent that my face and body would be swollen. Sometimes he would even make use of a belt. That was when we were in Ire, Osun state.

“I would hide what was happening because I did not want my mom to hear. She also lived within the same vicinity as us. Before when I go and report to her, she’ll say she did not give me out in marriage to anyone. Even my mum’s younger sister was against me marrying him, as she had lived longer in Ire than me, so she knew what she was saying. But when the pregnancy issue happened, there was nothing anyone could do.

“So my mum will tell me she did not bless any marriage and she cannot also ask me to leave there, so she did not involve herself in the issue. When he beat me, I would not be able to wear short-sleeved clothes, but long-sleeved dresses. I did not tell anyone, only those who lived with us in the house knew about it. Fast forward to January 2016 when I wanted to move to Lagos, we were frying akara for his dad’s remembrance when I had an issue with his elder sister.

“As usual, he beat me up and I decided that I was going to leave, move to Lagos, and start working at the bakery because I had been there before. The third day after that incident, I packed my load and brought my two children with me to Lagos because I could not leave them there. Getting to the bakery, I had to explain to my friend what happened and she was happy that I had finally left because she was part of the people that warned me about him.

“What I am saying now, I have never said it out before. Even when I met TY Bello and I told her that I had a husband, my friend was furious when she found out. She was like I do not have sense, why would I say someone who beats me is my husband? I had to explain that I had to say that because I have children. That was how he came to Lagos. Even in the house that was rented for me in Surulere, he would still beat me up.

“I did not even tell TY Bello what was going on. I could not even admit that we were not married. I am a very gentle person so I did not tell anyone what was going on, I was enduring all of it. Sometimes when he goes out to drink, because he is someone to have a good time, when he gets back and a minor misunderstanding happens, he would start beating me again. It is almost four years since we separated.

“While he was beating me, he did not have a job. I was the one who would go out to hustle for us because I did not want my children to suffer. He would just stay at home and sleep or go out to drink. I did not even disturb him from doing these things, I just wanted him to stop beating me. Then he also started monitoring me when I went to work. If I go for photoshoots, sometimes I come back very late. He would accuse me of sleeping around with other men.

“So I decided to finally leave him. It got so bad that he would even start insulting my parents. It was when I separated from him, that was when everything started going down the drain because he started spoiling my name. All those who had helped me then, he started saying bad things against them. Since then, things started going down.”

Olajumoke has returned to the spotlight as a radio presenter with her talk show ‘Kilon Shele’.

She disclosed that her radio show will focus on her personal story, including her experiences with exploitative managers who took advantage of her lack of education.

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Fans confused as Chike poses with mystery woman

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Chike, the Nigerian singer and songwriter, has sparked romance rumours after sharing an intimate photo with a mystery woman on Instagram.

The ‘Boo of the Booless’ hitmaker posted the picture on Wednesday, showcasing the pair in traditional Igbo and Yoruba attire.

He captioned the photo: “When I wake in the morning, I thank God for you”.

However, it remains unclear whether the photo is a glimpse into Chike’s personal life or a promotional shot for an upcoming music video.

Comments like “Happy married life o,” “my man pls don’t break my heart oo,” and “omo see as my heart cut babe stop naw” flooded the singer’s page.

The development comes as a surprise, considering Chike’s previous admission that he has never told a woman “I love you”.

In a 2022 interview, the 31-year-old singer revealed that saying “I love you” makes him feel vulnerable.

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Meagan Good, Jonathan Majors are engaged

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The Hollywood stars Meagan Good and Jonathan Majors are engaged.

The couple announced their engagement on Sunday at the 2024 Ebony Power 100 List event held at Nya Studios in Los Angeles.

Meagan showed off her engagement ring while the lovebirds posed for loved-up photos on the red carpet.

They also revealed why they chose the particular event to go public with their engagement.

“Ebony Power 100 is the event that we met at in the bathrooms, in the unisex bathroom,” Meagan said.

Good was married to DeVon Franklin, the US pastor and producer, from 2012 to 2021. She and Majors were first linked romantically in May 2023.

Earlier this year, Good opened up about how friends advised her about the scrutiny she could face by being with him. She also discussed how she has stood by him through his challenges.

Majors was found guilty of assault in the third degree and harassment in December 2023, following a March 2023 arrest in New York.

He was arrested after allegedly assaulting Grace Jabbari, his ex-girlfriend.

In April 2024, Majors was sentenced to one year of domestic violence counseling, which includes a 52-week, in-person program in Los Angeles. He was also required to continue mental health therapy and provide regular updates on his progress.

Also, the court issued a permanent protective order between Majors and Jabbari, with potential jail time for any violations of his sentencing terms.

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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

She has widespread experiences across different professions and skills, which includes experiences in; Marketing, Media, Broadcasting, Brand and Event Management, Administration and Management with prior stints at MTN, NAPIMS-NNPC, GLOBAL FLEET OIL AND GAS, LTV, Silverbird and a host of others

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