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Eight signs you should walk away from your relationship

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Deciding whether or not to end a relationship can be really tough. When most people are in love, their decisions are understandably influenced by their heart, not the brain. This may result in a situation where many fail to quickly become aware that they are in unsatisfying and toxic relationships.

Should you end your relationship? Here are eight signs you should.

You want completely different things

The start of a relationship is usually rosy, fun and exciting. After a while, the butterflies start to fade and both parties begin to truly know each other. Discovering that you and your partner are going in opposite directions and want different things in life may hurt — especially if you’re already in love with them.

You may be tempted to stay with the hope that you’ll want similar things later on, but more often than not, that never happens. Along the line, these differences will start to cause friction between the both of you. It’s better to let go as soon as you discover your paths don’t align.

You’re unhappy in the relationship

If being in the relationship makes you sad, moody, and makes you wonder what it will feel like to be single again, it may be time to leave.

A relationship should make you happy — even if not every time — and provide you with many great memories. One that does the exact opposite is not great for your mental health.

Your partner cheats on you

A cheating partner should ideally be a deal-breaker. In a situation where the relationship has lasted for a long time, years maybe, it could be difficult to let go when you find out your partner constantly cheats on you.

However, ask yourself if staying in the relationship is really worth it. Is your partner only remorseful because he/she was caught? Will you ever be able to trust again? In most cases, remaining in the relationship after your partner cheats is not a good idea.

There’s no trust

Trust is amiss in a relationship if you say you’re going out with friends, but your partner doesn’t believe you. Or your partner says they have to cancel a date because they’re sick, but you don’t believe them.

Without trust, a relationship cannot grow and will constantly feel hard to be in. There are many reasons for a lack of trust in a relationship. Sometimes it’s because your partner has given you reason(s) not to trust them in the past. Whatever it may be, if trust is non-existent, it may be better to go your separate ways.

You’re always falling for others

There will always be someone more attractive than your partner and so it’s normal to crush on someone else at some point. But if you find yourself falling for others all the time, it may be because you don’t really love your partner.

If this is the case, please let them go to avoid hurting them someday by cheating.

You break up and reconcile often

Many couples, especially those who have been in a relationship for a long time, may have broken up and gotten back together at some point. That is probably nothing to worry about. What is worrisome, however, is if a couple does this over and over.

Repetitive breakups could mean there are issues you will never be able to overcome. It may also mean the couple is not compatible. If you’re in this situation, you might want to save yourself from more wasted time and just end things once and for all.

You’re not yourself

Do you tiptoe around your partner? Are you always worried about what you say around them? Do you have to act like a completely different person around them? If yes, you may need to rethink being in that relationship.

A healthy relationship shouldn’t make you feel alien to yourself. You should be able to confidently be you without fear.

They put you down with their words

One’s partner is supposed to be their cheerleader and supporter. If you find that you’re always at the receiving end of some insulting or condescending comment from your partner, then that relationship needs to end.

Choosing to ignore it and stay will only do damage to your self-esteem and prevent you from doing a lot of things you should. If you were looking for a clear sign to end things, this is it!

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5 thoughtful gifts to get your partner for Christmas

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You know how we do in Naija when Christmas is just around the corner. This is the season of jollof rice, family vibes, and, of course, amazing gifts.

Now let’s be real when it comes to gifts. People are tired of boring and occasional gifts like Ankara fabrics, bland gift cards, and hampers, as these things fade away as soon as they are consumed. So this year let’s talk about five thoughtful gifts that’ll blow your partner’s mind and make this Christmas one for the books. These aren’t just gifts; they’re pure vibes.

Here are 5 thoughtful gifts to get your partner for Christmas.

1. Personalised jewellery

First up, we’ve got personalised jewellery. Trust me, this one hits every single time. Personalised gifts like this show your partner that you’ve put thought and effort into it.

Think about a necklace with their name, a bracelet engraved with your anniversary date, or a cute ring with a special message like “My Babe Forever.” Whether they wear it to Sunday service or flex it at a wedding, personalised jewellery is not just a gift; it’s a memory they carry with them.

There are plenty of Naija jewellers who can customise something stunning for you. Add a nice box and a handwritten note, and you’ve got yourself a top-tier gift that screams, “I care about you.”

2. Experience gifts

Sometimes, we just need a break from the daily hustle and city heat and traffic, and that’s why experience gifts are such a vibe.

It could be a weekend staycation in a luxury hotel, tickets to a Burna Boy or Asake concert, or even a relaxing spa date to help them recover from the December rush. For the adventurous ones, how about paragliding in Jos or hiking in Obudu?

It’s not just the experience itself; it’s the memories you create together. And trust me, you’ll be in their good books for a long, long time.

3. Custom photo book

Now this one is pure romance that brings back all the beautiful memories. Imagine creating a custom photo book filled with all the memories you and your partner have shared. From the cute selfies you took during your first date to the epic road trips or even those funny moments during wedding prep.

You can add captions like, “This was when we got stuck in Ajah traffic for five hours!” or “Our first beach date in Tarkwa Bay.” It’s more than just a gift; it’s your relationship in a book.

And the best part is that the memories are sweet, sentimental, and priceless. You can sit down together, flip through the pages, and laugh over all the memories.

4. Subscription boxes

Another perfect gift for your partner this Christmas season is a subscription box. Imagine your partner receiving a surprise package every month. It’s like Christmas 12 times a year.

From gourmet Nigerian snacks (think plantain chips, chin chin, and cashew nuts) to skincare products or even fitness gear, there’s a subscription box for everyone.

5. Handwritten love letters

In this digital age of WhatsApp messages and emojis, handwritten love letters are seriously underrated. Remind them why you fell in love, recount your favourite memories, and share your dreams for the future. You could even hide these letters in unexpected places—tuck one in their handbag or slide another under their pillow.

The beauty of a handwritten letter is that it lasts forever, even long after Christmas; your partner can pull it out, read it, and feel all warm and fuzzy. You can also add some local touches, like using Ankara stationery or a traditional wax-sealed envelope, and another gift, such as a photo album or a piece of jewellery.

Selecting a thoughtful gift for your partner this Christmas does not have to be difficult. These suggestions, ranging from personalised jewellery to handwritten love letters, emphasise the significance of effort and sentiment in gift-giving. The best gifts reflect your particular connection, making this season not just joyous but unforgettable.

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Tiwa Savage opens up about her divorce from TeeBillz

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Tiwa Savage, the Nigerian singer, has opened up about her divorce from Tunji ‘TeeBillz‘ Balogun, her ex-husband.

The duo divorced in 2018 after efforts to resolve the differences in their marriage proved abortive.

In an interview with The Receipts Podcast, the ‘Kele Kele’ hitmaker revealed that her ex-husband was responsible for the divorce.

The award-winning songstress said at the time, she was struggling with postpartum depression after giving birth to their son.

The 44-year-old singer said she faced intense criticism from the public, with many attacking her without giving her a chance to share her side of the story.

She also recalled how some prominent figures advised her to remain silent about the incident to protect her reputation.

“When I came out, I was Nigeria’s sweetheart when I started and I could do no wrong in Nigerian’s eyes. I did everything by the book. I went to university and I wasn’t a baby mama. I got married then I had a baby so I did everything in the right order and everybody loved me and then everything happened,” she said.

“Then I started getting hate from blogs and I started getting hate from certain people. The way our situation happened, he announced it online. I didn’t break up with him but I was the one being attacked.

“At the time, my baby was just a few months old and I was dealing with postpartum and my body wasn’t the same and I was depressed. Everyone then went to him and only a few people came to see me.

“After I interviewed to tell my side of the story, it got worse. People were like ‘How dare you go and talk’ ‘You’re a woman and you’re supposed to build the house, it’s your fault’.

“I remember famous people calling me to ask how I could tell my side of the story cuz I’d never win. Ever since then, I was like I won’t ever talk about the situation because it was very heartbreaking how the public took it and blamed me.”

She added that the experience was an “eye-opener” that made her become “wild and carefree”.

“It was an eye-opener for me and it made me depressed for so long. It got me angry then I became the ‘African Bad Girl’,” she added.

“I thought to myself that after doing everything right I was still attacked. Then I started getting tattoos and wearing short skirts and bikini. I was just wild.”

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Actress Etinosa Idemudia remarries in Lagos

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Etinosa Idemudia, the Nigerian actress, has tied the knot again, this time with a white man.

Etinosa took to her Instagram page to share a video of herself and her lover, whose name and nationality are yet to be revealed.

In the accompanying caption, the actress wrote, “I don carry my two left enter new relationship. Please wish me well ❤️ 💍”.

In another Instagram post on Thursday, Etinosa shared a photo from their legal wedding ceremony held at the Ikoyi Registry in Lagos.

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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

She has widespread experiences across different professions and skills, which includes experiences in; Marketing, Media, Broadcasting, Brand and Event Management, Administration and Management with prior stints at MTN, NAPIMS-NNPC, GLOBAL FLEET OIL AND GAS, LTV, Silverbird and a host of others

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