If you’re reading through this intently, there’s a big chance you’re currently been friend-zoned by a guy you’d preferably date.
Friend-zone occurs when there is a miscommunication of emotions and intentions between two people in a relationship. This usually results in a mismatch in romantic feelings where one person wants a romantic commitment with the other, while the other only wants simple platonic friendship.
If you’ve ever been stuck in the friend-zone, you’ll admit it sucks. Having to conceal your intense emotions, or worse, have them dashed when your romantic interest blurts out they “only want to be friends”, is a painful experience.
The best advice is to avoid being stuck in the friend-zone. Although, being friend-zoned isn’t the end of the world, sister.
Some of the guaranteed ways to leave this humiliating friendship “zone”, include:
Find a guy who’s your match
Recall that friend zone is simply a mismatch of emotions. It only makes sense to go for a guy who is a good match for you. This means entering a relationship with a guy who is romantically attracted to you as you are to him.
Avoid assuming just any guy is “into” you. Affirm with the romantic interest that you two share similar attractiveness to each other. It’d help to know what you’re looking for in a potential boyfriend so that should you begin dating, you may be aware if a guy meets, surpasses, or isn’t up to your standards.
Sometimes, friend-zone occurs because you’re trying way too hard to be with someone who is way above your league. Do not be deceived, social status, education, and experiences often play vital roles in matching individuals than we’d like to let on.
Make yourself a “scarce commodity”
No, you’re not a commodity. The idea is simply the theory of supply and demand: higher demand would lead to increased supply. Think of yourself as the supply and him as demand.
By making yourself i.e. supply scare, demand for you would be higher and consequently, your value will shoot up. Maybe Taylor Swift was right after all, maybe guys do like “love when its torture”.
By making yourself scarce, you’re making it tougher for a tough guy to gain access to you. Reduce the time spent with him drastically. Sign up for new activities, take up new hobbies, do anything but spend more time with a romantic interest.
It’ll only be a matter of time before he comes chasing. Plot twist, if he doesn’t come chasing, change your course of actions to abort your romantic venture as he may truly not be interested. Sorry, sis! Love knocked you down.
Shoot your shot
It’s 2023 and everyone is moving quickly. Times have changed and women are encouraged to share their feelings more. If you’re feeling bold, try shooting your shot by telling him how you really feel.
Ask him out on a date. Start off casually and build things up until you pour your heart out, *cue romantic background music*
Prepare your mind too for the possibilities: he may be amused, laugh your confession off, confess his love for you, kiss you, walk out on you, runoff, reel hysterically with laughter, cry, say something stupid, chastise you — the possibilities are endless.
By weighing in the possible options, you prepare your mind for both the best and worst.
If he accepts your love, great! If he doesn’t, raise your head high and move on with life.
Sky-rocket your attractiveness
I know this sounds vain. Especially if your love interest has confided how he’s into “au naturel, simple, girls” *rolls eyes*
Attractiveness is a core factor in initial romantic relationships. Take notes of areas you’re lacking in attractiveness and improve on them. Body language, shape, speech, grooming, are just a few major mediums to improve how attractive you are.
Trust that having done these, your romantic interest could potentially be “bae”.
5 reasons age gaps matter when it comes to dating
Have soulmates lost each other because of differences in age?.
In a world where we have levels, classes and statuses for relationships, there is a category for age when it comes to dating.
Certainly, it would feel somehow if an 18-year-old girl is seen with a 30-year-old man. But 15 years later, when that same 18-year-old is now 33 and the 30-year-old is now 45, is it still considered a societal taboo?
In my opinion, anyone between the ages of 21 to 25 years is allowed to date whomever, regardless of age, class or status because they are considered mature in the eyes of everyone.
Do age gaps matter when it comes to dating or is the side-eye for them placed to avoid chaotic or societal issues such as manipulation or abuse of the younger party in the relationship?
Outside the taboo politics, age gaps can be a factor in dating for several reasons and can influence compatibility in various ways. These include;
1. Life stages
People of different ages often have different life priorities and goals. For example, someone in their 20s may be more focused on building a career or exploring their independence, while someone in their 40s might be looking to settle down and start a family.
These differences can create challenges if the individuals involved are not aligned.
2. Social perception
Society often holds certain expectations and stereotypes about age differences in relationships. Couples with substantial age gaps may face judgment, criticism, or interrogations from friends, family, or the broader community.
This social pressure can add stress to the relationship.
3. Power dynamics
In relationships with significant age disparities, there’s the potential for power imbalances. The older partner may have more life experience and financial stability, which can affect decision-making and influence the relationship.
4. Shared interests and experiences
People of similar ages are more likely to have shared cultural, experiences and interests. While age differences can certainly bring fresh perspectives to a relationship, substantial gaps may make it harder to connect on a deeper level.
5. Legal considerations
In some places, there are legal age restrictions on dating or sexual relationships, particularly when one person is a minor. These laws exist to protect individuals who may be vulnerable due to their age.
It’s important to note that while age can be a factor, it doesn’t have to be a strict limit. Many successful and fulfilling relationships have substantial age differences and thrive because the individuals involved share mutual respect and common values.
Would you consider dating someone with significant age difference?
Six tips for building a healthy romantic relationship
You know that thing they say about not taking relationship advice from a single person? Well, that is going to happen if you read through this article. But believe me, couples in healthy relationships swear by them.
No matter how beautiful a romantic relationship is, they all are not without their ups and downs. And hence, the need for some advice now and then.
But we both know that not all relationship advice is good (even though some are dished out with good intentions). However, we must acknowledge that some advice when it comes to romantic relationships is pretty solid and hits the nail on the proverbial head.
So what constitutes good advice? In this piece, we’ll be touching on some of them and although I label them as good advice, for you, it might not be so.
- Do Not Let Third Parties Control Your Relationship
It’s good for the people in your life informed about certain aspects of your relationship. However, this shouldn’t be without boundaries.
Relationships strive for intimacy and this can only happen between the two people involved in the relationship and no one more. For this reason, third-party opinions and control should never have a place in such a relationship.
Let the people in your life know their boundaries when it comes to your romantic relationship. And instead of taking everyone of your relationship problem to the most available friend or family member, introspect, talk things over with your partner, or go to someone who has credible experience in relationships for advice.
Keep your relationship more intimate than “out there” to avoid unnecessary drama.
- Be Kind To Your Partner Before Getting Mad At Them
Whether you like it or not, your partner is human first before being the one you love. And hence, they’ll be times their weaknesses will pop out.
You’ll be greeted by their ugly sides and it’ll not be pretty at all. But always try to remember to think kindly towards your partner before getting angry at them.
If you do this, you’ll soon discover that most of the time a loved one is being annoying, it’s usually triggered by dissatisfaction, or unhappiness, from their end. Sometimes, they might be acting up just because they’re trying to feel less overwhelmed as they are.
- Learn To Really Speak To Each Other
You’ve probably heard a million times that communication is key in romantic relationships.
In fact, you’ve heard this phrase one-too-many times that you’ve gotten so familiar with it that it doesn’t really mean a lot anymore.
But communicating is very important. It is what fuels every relationship including a Romantic one. This doesn’t come naturally so some extra effort must be put into learning each other’s styles of communication. What is your partner’s love language? What is their conflict style? What sort of tone do they most communicate in? When are they the most comfortable to talk? All of these and more, you must learn to talk effectively with your partner.
- Yes, Spice Things Up!
Another phrase that has become mundane but is quite important is this.
Relationships will grow dull, routines could grow mundane, and being with the same person could cause too much familiarity.
Hence, “spicing things up” — creatively adopting new habits, exploring exciting things together will stir a ripple effect in your relationship.
- Be Ready To Sacrifice
As far as love is concerned, sacrifices are a must. Get into romantic relationships knowing fully well you make sacrifices.
Be ready to sacrifice for the one you love and be ready to do so without a grudge.
- Always Remember To Be An Individual
It’s quite easy to want to fade into the person with whom you’re in a relationship. But do not fall for this trap.
Always remember that before meeting your love interest, you were an individual first. Keep this in mind and work hard at being yourself while in a relationship. Pursue your dreams, (but by all means, make sacrifices here and there), marry your beliefs with that of your partner, all in all, always remember to lend your voice in your relationship. Express your thoughts and feelings.
Do any of these make sense to you? Would you reconsider taking relationship advice from another single person? Let me know in the comments.
Sophie Turner sues Joe Jonas for wrongfully detaining their kids in the US
Sophie Turner has slammed her estranged husband Joe Jonas with a lawsuit, claiming that he has held their children’s passports hostage.
According to People Magazine, the Game of Thrones actress has called for “the immediate return of children wrongfully removed or wrongfully retained,” in the paperwork filed on September 20, 2023.
Sophie, filed these documents in a federal court, citing the international treaty, Hague Convention which deals with child abduction across country lines.
The actress detailed that she and Jonas had agreed to raise their two daughters Willa and J.D. in England as their ‘forever home’ just in December of 2022, which was why they sold their Miami home in preparation. She also stressed in the paperwork that before the divorce papers were filed, Jonas was in temporary custody of their girls because he had more daylight hours to spend with them in comparison to her and her gruelling shooting hours in the UK.
The actress also disclosed that she found out that Jonas had filed for divorce from her via social media days after he filed. Turner’s paperwork stated that afterwards, she visited her estranged husband to discuss taking the children back to England with her, during which he “refused to return the passports to the Mother and refuses to send the children home to England with the Mother.”
Jonas filed for divorce from Turner on September 1, 2023, to the sheer shock of their fans especially because Turner had posted a lovey-dovey picture of them a week before. Now, according to her, their marriage had an abrupt breakdown after their fight on August 15.
The two met in 2016 and got engaged a year later, then wed in two ceremonies: the first a private, intimate ceremony in Las Vegas and the second, a larger wedding in Paris.
Now it seems like the ‘picture-perfect’ marriage is crumbling, and it’s crumbling fast.
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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.
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