Relationships
Four ways to avoid being friend-zoned by a guy
If you’re reading through this intently, there’s a big chance you’re currently been friend-zoned by a guy you’d preferably date.
Friend-zone occurs when there is a miscommunication of emotions and intentions between two people in a relationship. This usually results in a mismatch in romantic feelings where one person wants a romantic commitment with the other, while the other only wants simple platonic friendship.
If you’ve ever been stuck in the friend-zone, you’ll admit it sucks. Having to conceal your intense emotions, or worse, have them dashed when your romantic interest blurts out they “only want to be friends”, is a painful experience.
The best advice is to avoid being stuck in the friend-zone. Although, being friend-zoned isn’t the end of the world, sister.
Some of the guaranteed ways to leave this humiliating friendship “zone”, include:
Find a guy who’s your match
Recall that friend zone is simply a mismatch of emotions. It only makes sense to go for a guy who is a good match for you. This means entering a relationship with a guy who is romantically attracted to you as you are to him.
Avoid assuming just any guy is “into” you. Affirm with the romantic interest that you two share similar attractiveness to each other. It’d help to know what you’re looking for in a potential boyfriend so that should you begin dating, you may be aware if a guy meets, surpasses, or isn’t up to your standards.
Sometimes, friend-zone occurs because you’re trying way too hard to be with someone who is way above your league. Do not be deceived, social status, education, and experiences often play vital roles in matching individuals than we’d like to let on.
Make yourself a “scarce commodity”
No, you’re not a commodity. The idea is simply the theory of supply and demand: higher demand would lead to increased supply. Think of yourself as the supply and him as demand.
By making yourself i.e. supply scare, demand for you would be higher and consequently, your value will shoot up. Maybe Taylor Swift was right after all, maybe guys do like “love when its torture”.
By making yourself scarce, you’re making it tougher for a tough guy to gain access to you. Reduce the time spent with him drastically. Sign up for new activities, take up new hobbies, do anything but spend more time with a romantic interest.
It’ll only be a matter of time before he comes chasing. Plot twist, if he doesn’t come chasing, change your course of actions to abort your romantic venture as he may truly not be interested. Sorry, sis! Love knocked you down.
Shoot your shot
It’s 2023 and everyone is moving quickly. Times have changed and women are encouraged to share their feelings more. If you’re feeling bold, try shooting your shot by telling him how you really feel.
Ask him out on a date. Start off casually and build things up until you pour your heart out, *cue romantic background music*
Prepare your mind too for the possibilities: he may be amused, laugh your confession off, confess his love for you, kiss you, walk out on you, runoff, reel hysterically with laughter, cry, say something stupid, chastise you — the possibilities are endless.
By weighing in the possible options, you prepare your mind for both the best and worst.
If he accepts your love, great! If he doesn’t, raise your head high and move on with life.
Sky-rocket your attractiveness
I know this sounds vain. Especially if your love interest has confided how he’s into “au naturel, simple, girls” *rolls eyes*
Attractiveness is a core factor in initial romantic relationships. Take notes of areas you’re lacking in attractiveness and improve on them. Body language, shape, speech, grooming, are just a few major mediums to improve how attractive you are.
Trust that having done these, your romantic interest could potentially be “bae”.
Relationships
Sola Sobowale’s daughter gets engaged
Sola Sobowale, the ace Nollywood actress, has announced the engagement of Mide, her daughter.
The film star took to her Instagram page on Wednesday to share loved-up photos of Mide and her partner.
Sobowale expressed her “overwhelming joy” while describing her daughter’s fiance as a “wonderful and inspiring” man.
“My baby found her forever person. My heart is overwhelmed with joy,” she wrote.
“I have gained a son—a wonderful, inspiring young man. All the glory be to God. I love you both.”
On her part, Mide also shared the same photos with an accompanying caption that read “us till infinity”.
In the post’s comment section, several celebrities and fans congratulated the soon-to-be couple.
Relationships
‘You didn’t tell the truth’, Gerard Pique fires dig at Shakira over their break-up
Former Barcelona star Gerard Pique has addressed claims made by his ex-partner, Shakira, in a rare interview over two years after their high-profile split.
Shakira, 47, announced the end of their 11-year relationship in June 2022, amid rumors of Pique’s infidelity.
Since their breakup, the Colombian singer has made several public digs at Pique, even referring to him as “Voldemort” in her music.
Pique, now 37, has since moved on with 25-year-old Clara Chia Marti and insists he is content despite Shakira’s remarks, which have also targeted Marti.
In an interview with CNN, via AS, Pique hinted that the public narrative around their breakup has been skewed. “In the end, the truth or what happens or occurs is not told in the way it was. I cannot control this,” he said.
Pique went on to express his happiness and gratitude for the support he receives from his close circle.
“The best thing is that in the end, I am surrounded by my loved ones, my family, my friends, the people who really know you. They know what you are like and what you do, and that gives me a lot of peace of mind.”
Reflecting on his current life, Pique shared, “I am very happy, I have a great time, and I feel privileged. The life I have had, being able to play for the club of my life for more than twenty years, wonderful children, an incredible family, lifelong friends, those from school that I still have.”
Pique and Shakira had two sons together, Milan, 11, and Sasha, nine.
Relationships
Don’t go for men who ask what you bring to the table – Odumodublvck tells ladies
Odumodublvck headlined the TraceLive x Tiger Beer Concert recently, where he lived up to his billing as a superstar music act, delivering electrifying performances.
During a break in his high-energy set, the “Declan Rice” hitmaker took a moment to address the crowd, particularly, with a piece of advice to the ladies.
“All my fine fine girls, no go follow man wey no go spoil you oo. No follow man wey go dey ask you wetin you bring to the table.”
The rapper, known for his raw, unapologetic lyrics, made it clear that when it comes to relationships, standards should be high. And, of course, in true Odumodublvck fashion, he wasn’t talking about material things alone—he was dropping life lessons about respect, value, and knowing your worth.
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