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Six tips for building a healthy romantic relationship

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You know that thing they say about not taking relationship advice from a single person? Well, that is going to happen if you read through this article. But believe me, couples in healthy relationships swear by them.

No matter how beautiful a romantic relationship is, they all are not without their ups and downs. And hence, the need for some advice now and then.

But we both know that not all relationship advice is good (even though some are dished out with good intentions). However, we must acknowledge that some advice when it comes to romantic relationships is pretty solid and hits the nail on the proverbial head.

So what constitutes good advice? In this piece, we’ll be touching on some of them and although I label them as good advice, for you, it might not be so.

  • Do Not Let Third Parties Control Your Relationship

It’s good for the people in your life informed about certain aspects of your relationship. However, this shouldn’t be without boundaries.

Relationships strive for intimacy and this can only happen between the two people involved in the relationship and no one more. For this reason, third-party opinions and control should never have a place in such a relationship.

Let the people in your life know their boundaries when it comes to your romantic relationship. And instead of taking everyone of your relationship problem to the most available friend or family member, introspect, talk things over with your partner, or go to someone who has credible experience in relationships for advice.

Keep your relationship more intimate than “out there” to avoid unnecessary drama.

  • Be Kind To Your Partner Before Getting Mad At Them

Whether you like it or not, your partner is human first before being the one you love. And hence, they’ll be times their weaknesses will pop out.

You’ll be greeted by their ugly sides and it’ll not be pretty at all. But always try to remember to think kindly towards your partner before getting angry at them.

If you do this, you’ll soon discover that most of the time a loved one is being annoying, it’s usually triggered by dissatisfaction, or unhappiness, from their end. Sometimes, they might be acting up just because they’re trying to feel less overwhelmed as they are.

  • Learn To Really Speak To Each Other

You’ve probably heard a million times that communication is key in romantic relationships.

In fact, you’ve heard this phrase one-too-many times that you’ve gotten so familiar with it that it doesn’t really mean a lot anymore.

But communicating is very important. It is what fuels every relationship including a Romantic one. This doesn’t come naturally so some extra effort must be put into learning each other’s styles of communication. What is your partner’s love language? What is their conflict style? What sort of tone do they most communicate in? When are they the most comfortable to talk? All of these and more, you must learn to talk effectively with your partner.

  • Yes, Spice Things Up!

Another phrase that has become mundane but is quite important is this.

Relationships will grow dull, routines could grow mundane, and being with the same person could cause too much familiarity.

Hence, “spicing things up” — creatively adopting new habits, exploring exciting things together will stir a ripple effect in your relationship.

  • Be Ready To Sacrifice

As far as love is concerned, sacrifices are a must. Get into romantic relationships knowing fully well you make sacrifices.

Be ready to sacrifice for the one you love and be ready to do so without a grudge.

  • Always Remember To Be An Individual

It’s quite easy to want to fade into the person with whom you’re in a relationship. But do not fall for this trap.

Always remember that before meeting your love interest, you were an individual first. Keep this in mind and work hard at being yourself while in a relationship. Pursue your dreams, (but by all means, make sacrifices here and there), marry your beliefs with that of your partner, all in all, always remember to lend your voice in your relationship. Express your thoughts and feelings.

Do any of these make sense to you? Would you reconsider taking relationship advice from another single person? Let me know in the comments.

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Olajumoke Onibread narrates how ex-husband assaulted and ruined her career

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Olajumoke Orisaguna, the Nigerian model famously known as Olajumoke Onibread, has recounted her harrowing experience with domestic abuse.

Olajumoke rose to fame in 2016 after accidentally walking into a photo shoot with British rapper Tinie Tempah, captured by TY Bello. However, she disappeared from the public eye, leaving many wondering about her whereabouts.

In a recent interview with City FM, Olajumoke alleged that she endured a toxic relationship with her ex-husband Sunday Orisaguna.

She said they lived in Ire, Osun state before she relocated to Lagos. The model described the environment at their Ire home as “hostile”, citing her mother-in-law’s “mistreatment” and Sunday’s “physical abuse”.

She said after relocating to Lagos, she started hawking bread before crossing paths with TY Bello. She said Sunday, however, joined her in Lagos, and the alleged abuse continued.

Olajumoke said she felt ashamed to deny claims of marriage due to their two children. She claimed that her career suffered after their separation, alleging that Sunday maligned her reputation and that of her supporters.

“The time we were in Ire, we stayed in my husband’s family house and there is no way you stay in that kind of place that you would not encounter problems. My mother-in-law was very hostile towards me and I would have to close my hairdressing shop on time just so I could go make dinner at home,” she said.

“And it was whatever she told her son is what he listens to. He would not even listen to my own side of the story before he started beating me up. Whenever me and his mother had misunderstandings, he would not even listen to me before hitting me. He would beat me to the extent that my face and body would be swollen. Sometimes he would even make use of a belt. That was when we were in Ire, Osun state.

“I would hide what was happening because I did not want my mom to hear. She also lived within the same vicinity as us. Before when I go and report to her, she’ll say she did not give me out in marriage to anyone. Even my mum’s younger sister was against me marrying him, as she had lived longer in Ire than me, so she knew what she was saying. But when the pregnancy issue happened, there was nothing anyone could do.

“So my mum will tell me she did not bless any marriage and she cannot also ask me to leave there, so she did not involve herself in the issue. When he beat me, I would not be able to wear short-sleeved clothes, but long-sleeved dresses. I did not tell anyone, only those who lived with us in the house knew about it. Fast forward to January 2016 when I wanted to move to Lagos, we were frying akara for his dad’s remembrance when I had an issue with his elder sister.

“As usual, he beat me up and I decided that I was going to leave, move to Lagos, and start working at the bakery because I had been there before. The third day after that incident, I packed my load and brought my two children with me to Lagos because I could not leave them there. Getting to the bakery, I had to explain to my friend what happened and she was happy that I had finally left because she was part of the people that warned me about him.

“What I am saying now, I have never said it out before. Even when I met TY Bello and I told her that I had a husband, my friend was furious when she found out. She was like I do not have sense, why would I say someone who beats me is my husband? I had to explain that I had to say that because I have children. That was how he came to Lagos. Even in the house that was rented for me in Surulere, he would still beat me up.

“I did not even tell TY Bello what was going on. I could not even admit that we were not married. I am a very gentle person so I did not tell anyone what was going on, I was enduring all of it. Sometimes when he goes out to drink, because he is someone to have a good time, when he gets back and a minor misunderstanding happens, he would start beating me again. It is almost four years since we separated.

“While he was beating me, he did not have a job. I was the one who would go out to hustle for us because I did not want my children to suffer. He would just stay at home and sleep or go out to drink. I did not even disturb him from doing these things, I just wanted him to stop beating me. Then he also started monitoring me when I went to work. If I go for photoshoots, sometimes I come back very late. He would accuse me of sleeping around with other men.

“So I decided to finally leave him. It got so bad that he would even start insulting my parents. It was when I separated from him, that was when everything started going down the drain because he started spoiling my name. All those who had helped me then, he started saying bad things against them. Since then, things started going down.”

Olajumoke has returned to the spotlight as a radio presenter with her talk show ‘Kilon Shele’.

She disclosed that her radio show will focus on her personal story, including her experiences with exploitative managers who took advantage of her lack of education.

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Fans confused as Chike poses with mystery woman

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Chike, the Nigerian singer and songwriter, has sparked romance rumours after sharing an intimate photo with a mystery woman on Instagram.

The ‘Boo of the Booless’ hitmaker posted the picture on Wednesday, showcasing the pair in traditional Igbo and Yoruba attire.

He captioned the photo: “When I wake in the morning, I thank God for you”.

However, it remains unclear whether the photo is a glimpse into Chike’s personal life or a promotional shot for an upcoming music video.

Comments like “Happy married life o,” “my man pls don’t break my heart oo,” and “omo see as my heart cut babe stop naw” flooded the singer’s page.

The development comes as a surprise, considering Chike’s previous admission that he has never told a woman “I love you”.

In a 2022 interview, the 31-year-old singer revealed that saying “I love you” makes him feel vulnerable.

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Meagan Good, Jonathan Majors are engaged

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The Hollywood stars Meagan Good and Jonathan Majors are engaged.

The couple announced their engagement on Sunday at the 2024 Ebony Power 100 List event held at Nya Studios in Los Angeles.

Meagan showed off her engagement ring while the lovebirds posed for loved-up photos on the red carpet.

They also revealed why they chose the particular event to go public with their engagement.

“Ebony Power 100 is the event that we met at in the bathrooms, in the unisex bathroom,” Meagan said.

Good was married to DeVon Franklin, the US pastor and producer, from 2012 to 2021. She and Majors were first linked romantically in May 2023.

Earlier this year, Good opened up about how friends advised her about the scrutiny she could face by being with him. She also discussed how she has stood by him through his challenges.

Majors was found guilty of assault in the third degree and harassment in December 2023, following a March 2023 arrest in New York.

He was arrested after allegedly assaulting Grace Jabbari, his ex-girlfriend.

In April 2024, Majors was sentenced to one year of domestic violence counseling, which includes a 52-week, in-person program in Los Angeles. He was also required to continue mental health therapy and provide regular updates on his progress.

Also, the court issued a permanent protective order between Majors and Jabbari, with potential jail time for any violations of his sentencing terms.

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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

She has widespread experiences across different professions and skills, which includes experiences in; Marketing, Media, Broadcasting, Brand and Event Management, Administration and Management with prior stints at MTN, NAPIMS-NNPC, GLOBAL FLEET OIL AND GAS, LTV, Silverbird and a host of others

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