Relationships
Five negative things to expect if you’re in a sexless marriage
Marriage is an institution with many moving parts. Parts that need to move for things to go smoothly. Sex is just one of those parts but a very important one nonetheless.
But as it happens, marriage can descend into a place where the couple grow so apart emotionally that sex ceases to be a part of the marriage. Though they still live under the same roof, sleeping in the same bed. The consequences of a sexless marriage are far-reaching.
However, conditions that lead to a sexless marriage are not always black and white. A couple can be happy and be in a sexless marriage, wondering what happened to their once blossoming sex life. And sexless marriage isn’t as rare as you may think.
According to one study, 15 per cent of married couples are in a sexless marriage. A marriage is said to be sexless if a couple have not had sex for 6 to 12 months.
What are the consequences of a sexless marriage?
Below are ways in which a sexless marriage can affect you.
Reduces emotional intimacy
Intimacy is important for a couple in marriage. It is about being close to your partner on an emotional level. Intimacy allows one to be vulnerable and open to their partner. It fosters comfort-ability, allowing each person in the union to do things like walking naked before the other person. And sex hugely contributes to this, hence the reduction of intimacy.
More temptation
Sex is a physical activity that brings pleasure and promotes bonding between a couple. The body is programmed to want sex, if not for the bonding, then for the pleasure. So when your physical needs are not being met you are bound to be starved and lonely. And that starvation and loneliness may lead to impulsive behaviour, bringing your fidelity into question.
Reduces trust
There is a hormone known as the “Love hormone.” Scientists call it oxytocin. This hormone is secreted when one reaches orgasm, the height of sexual pleasure. Oxytocin increases the feeling of trust between partners. In a sexless marriage where there is no sex or intimacy, oxytocin is absent. Therefore, trust is lacking, which will make you begin to question your partner’s loyalty. Why aren’t they having sex with you? Are they getting it somewhere else?
Low self-esteem
Apart from the pleasure that comes with sex, what it does for a couple is that it confirms to each of them that their partner wants them. Therefore, this translates into a feeling of attractiveness and being wanted. But in a sexless marriage where sex is nonexistent, it will make you start to feel like you’re the problem. That you’re not attractive enough.
Resentment
To many people, sex is only a physical activity, but it goes beyond that. It is a time when two souls bond and achieve the feel-good factor. And so it makes sense that when that good feeling is no longer there, resentment and irritability might take its place.
Conclusion
There is never shame in getting help. Talk to your partner. Communicate. If you both want to work things out and rekindle that passion for sex, find a counsellor with years of experience in marriage counselling.
Relationships
Actress Stephanie Okereke-Linus, husband celebrate 13th wedding anniversary
Nollywood actress Stephanie Okereke-Linus and her husband, Linus Idahosa, on Sunday, celebrated their 13th wedding anniversary.
The actress took to her Instagram page, @stephanielinus, to celebrate the milestone with a display of a picture of herself and her husband.
She wrote, “Cheers to 🥂Thirteen years of amazingness and building beautiful memories and dreams together.
“Each year, always better than the last.
“Happy 13th Anniversary, to us🌹” #Thirteen Years Strong #Happy Anniversary.”
Some fans also took to the comment section to congratulate the couple.
@Joycekalu said, “Happy anniversary sis.”
@Yomicasual, with an emoji wrote, “🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉.”
@Kelechiamadiobi said, “Big congratulations.”
Also, @DewumiHappy wrote “Happy anniversary 😍😍.”
The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the couple got married in April, 21,2012, in Paris, France, at a private wedding ceremony.
Relationships
Ashanti confirms pregnancy as she announces engagement to Nelly
Ashanti, an American singer and songwriter, has turned to Instagram to announce her engagement to rapper Nelly.
She also announced that they are expecting a kid together.
This comes after they reignited their relationship last year.
The pair announced their engagement and pregnancy to Essence.
“This new year of my life is such a blessing full of love, hope, and anticipation,” Ashanti told the outlet. “Motherhood is something that I have looked forward to, and sharing this with my family, fiancé, and loyal fans, who have been so supportive of my career, is an amazing experience.”
The “Foolish” singer also posted a video on social media advertising her and Nelly’s brand, Proov, which offers an at-home pregnancy test. In the footage, Ashanti appears to be getting ready to walk onstage when someone asks how much time she will need.
See the video below.
Relationships
‘I didn’t do it’ — Korra Obidi kicks as ex-husband accuses her of cheating during pregnancy
Korra Obidi, the Nigerian dancer, has denied a claim by Justin Dean, her ex-husband, that she cheated on him while pregnant with their second child.
In a video, Dean said Korra traveled to Nigeria for a friend’s wedding when she was five months pregnant.
He alleged that Korra slept with her friend’s fiance. He also shared what he claimed to be chats between his ex-wife and the man.
“She was sleeping around while pregnant with my child”
— 🐬 @𝗼𝗻𝗲𝗷𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗯𝗼𝘆 (@OneJoblessBoy) April 17, 2024
– Dr Justin Dean pic.twitter.com/qNazsKnF6e
“Korra, my ex-wife went to Nigeria for her friend’s wedding and slept with this woman’s fiance, while she was 5 months pregnant with our daughter,” he said.
“I was so upset when I found out that she has been sleeping around. It was very risky. She could have contracted SDTs while she was pregnant. That is a big deal.”
Reacting to Dean’s claim of infidelity in an Instagram post on Wednesday, Korra she “did not do it”.
“Long story short, I didn’t do it. If you believe, your papa papaaa,” she wrote.
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