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Six mistakes to avoid on a first date

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Meeting your love interest for the first time can be exciting and nerve-wracking. First dates often come with a rush of emotions and frequent questions about what to wear, what to say, and how to act.

Despite the uncertainties and anxiety that accompany first dates, it is important to make a good impression and ensure a smooth experience to avoid sabotaging the chance of a meaningful relationship.

Given this, here are mistakes you should steer clear of to ensure a smooth and enjoyable date experience.

  • Being late

Showing up late to a date can create a bad first impression. It can even give off the impression that you do not value or respect your date and his/her time.

To avoid being late, plan your journey and aim to arrive a few minutes early to demonstrate punctuality and consideration.

In case of unexpected delays, communicate with your date. Let him/her know why you will be running late and do not forget to apologise.

  • Dressing inappropriately

You should dress the way you want to be addressed by your date.

Do you know your appearance can speak volumes about your personality, confidence, style, and preferences? So dress and appear in a way that will give a long-lasting positive impression.

Dress appropriately and comfortably without going overboard or overdressing for the event.

  • Constantly checking your phone

Why are you at the date in the first place when you know you will be on your phone throughout?

It is important to put your phone away during a date so you won’t make your date feel unimportant and ignored.

So put away your phone, pay attention, listen, and engage in conversation. Make yourself fully present and interested during conversations.

The only reason you should be on your phone constantly is when you are expecting an important call or message. And your date must have been aware of this beforehand.

  • Talking too much

Yes, you should be active in the conversation but moderation is key. Do not overdo it.

Some people tend to talk more when nervous which is understandable. However, remember that a date is a conversation, and it should be balanced: your date talks, and you talk.

Try not to dominate the conservation. Talking too much about yourself is a major turn-off on a first date.

The essence of a date is for both people to get to know each other so practice active listening.

Ask open-ended questions to encourage your date to share about themselves and aim for a balanced conversation.

Also, avoid bringing up politics or religious subjects. These subjects can be controversial and create tension or disagreement.

  • Talking about your ex

Understandably, you want something serious and you want to do a little preliminary digging.

There is no harm in asking but let it come up organically. Also, do not dwell on it for too long.

Give your date time to open up about his/her past relationship. Do not force it, not even on the first date.

Try not to also bring in your past relationships except when you are asked. This can make your date uncomfortable and give the impression that you are not over your exes.

Rather, keep the conversation light and focused on getting to know each other.

Save more personal topics for later dates when a deeper connection has been established.

  • Trying to get physically intimate too soon

Pushing for physical intimacy too early can create discomfort and send the wrong message.

First dates are meant to establish a connection and understand compatibility, not to rush into physical relations.

So, respect personal boundaries and focus on building emotional and intellectual connections first.

If the relationship works out, there is plenty of time to explore physical intimacy.

But on a first date, do not try to establish physical intimacy to avoid coming off as creepy or desperate.

Remember, be yourself throughout the conversation and let the relationship develop naturally. Don’t force it.

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I left my marriage because I was providing more than my ex, says Yvonne Jegede

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Yvonne Jegede, the Nigerian actress, has opened up on the circumstances that led to her divorce.

The movie star married Olakunle Abounce Fawole, a fellow actor, in 2017. But their union hit the rocks barely a year into the marriage. They both have a son together named Xavier.

In a snippet of the Honest Bunch podcast’s latest edition, Yvonne sighted a variety of factors that led to the end of their union.

The actress said Fawole started taking her jokes and playful mannerisms as “disrespect” even though it was not like that before marriage.

The movie star said she left her marriage because she “contributed more financially than Fawole”.

“He is eight years older than me. But the moment we got married, if I tell am say, you dey craze, he would say I am disrespecting him. I would wonder if it was the same person I got married to,” she said.

“But that was not the main reason I left the marriage. Let me just say the fact, I was bringing more of the money. I am taking care of my son like nobody exists around me. It is not easy. I would have gone for money instead of love.”

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Vera Sidika throws wild divorce party to celebrate ending marriage with Brown Mauzo (Video)

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Vera Sidika has taken breakup game to the next level with a wild and lavish divorce party after ending marriage with Brown Mauzo.

Social media influencer and businesswoman Vera Sidika has set new standards in celebrating breakup by throwing a lavish Divorce party to mark a new chapter after her failed marriage to singer Brown Mauzo.

Taking to social media, Vera gave the world a glimpse into how the party went down, opining that “a divorce party is better than therapy”.

Videos shared by the mother of two confirmed that the party lived up to her expectations as it went down with all the elements that characterize a ratchet and wild party.

“Welcome to my DIVORCE PARTY!!!! 🥵💃🏼Theme; Ratchet 😂 Doing a divorce party is better than therapy.” Vera captioned the video, adding that “MARRIAGE IS A SCAM 🚨 TRENDSETTER 😩.”

The party was graced by The Real Housewives of Nairobi cast plus a few of her friends.

“Free like a bird, let’s get this party started. Marriage is a scam you all,” Vera shouted during the party that was graced by The Real Housewives of Nairobi cast and her friends.

She clarified that her stand on marriage was a personal opinion and not a fact, noting that while to her marriage is a scam, it is a beautiful thing to others.

“When I say marriage is a scam that’s my opinion and views on it. It’s not a fact. To some marriage is beautiful, to me marriage is a scam,” she said.

She defended a particular lifestyle, accusing Kenyans of being hypocrites and criticizing the same things that they do in private behind closed doors.

“Kenya tunapenda usherati, but act holy when we see someone else openly living that life carefree. Not that we hate it. We just hate their guts. But do the same thing behind closed doors,”. Vera slammed.

Guests at the party clearly understood the assignment, stepping out in carnival costumes.

Revelers were seen having a good time with music, drinks and fun flowing freely.

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It’s shameful for a man to marry a lady for money, says Pastor Bolaji Idowu

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Bolaji Idowu, the lead pastor of Harvesters International Christian Centre, says it is very “shameful” for a man to marry a woman for “financial reasons”.

In a recent sermon to his congregation, the cleric wondered why a “grown” man’s success strategy would be to tie the knot with a “lady from a rich family”.

He also described having such a thought process as a “consumer mentality”, adding that such men “lack critical wisdom”.

“One of the most shameful things I have seen is when men try to marry women for money. How can you be a grown man and your dream in life for success, your life strategy for success is that I will find a rich girl from a rich family and I will marry her,” he said.

“Is it because you believe there is nothing in you that can produce? That is consumer mentality. How do you want to do marriage and in planning for your marital finances, you plan that people will give you money to do your marriage? Does it not show that you lack critical wisdom?”.

Idowu founded Harvesters church on December 13, 2003.

He is well known for publicly speaking out on religious and political matters.

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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

She has widespread experiences across different professions and skills, which includes experiences in; Marketing, Media, Broadcasting, Brand and Event Management, Administration and Management with prior stints at MTN, NAPIMS-NNPC, GLOBAL FLEET OIL AND GAS, LTV, Silverbird and a host of others

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