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Why parents must involve boys in house chores just like girls

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Nigerians from all walks of life on Sunday expressed their views on the need for parents to get boys involved in doing house chores.

They told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Abuja, that allowing only the girl child to do the house chores, while the boys play football or other games, was “old fashioned”.

Some believe that involving the male child in house chores would instil discipline and responsibility in them. The Executive Director, of Administration, of Every Life Matters Foundation, Benjamin Obasi, advised parents to invest time in training their male children to become responsible adults.

Obasi said that society had invested so much time to train and educate the girl child in terms of house chores and neglected the boy child to become a nuisance. According to him, no girl child will be abused if the boy child gets adequate home training.

“Doing house chores are part of the training a boy child should undergo. It is bad to make them grow up with the mentality that a girl child is less valuable,” he said.

On his part, John Atomore, an activist, said it was important to involve the male child in house chores because chores are not gender-based.

“It is a form of training for the boy child, who will live alone some day before starting a family.

“Parents should encourage the male child by making them understand that house chores are not a gender role, but a survival skill.

“When a male child is involved in chores, he will not know whether certain duties are meant for a girl child or not.

“He gains satisfaction in doing it himself when he is used to it,” he said.

Similarly, Bisiola Adeyanju, a mother of one, said that she has a male child and was going to train him to be a responsible adult to himself, family and society.

“A male child should be involved in chores immediately he can differentiate between left and right.

“We need to involve them early to reduce gender bias in the society because home, they say, is where charity begins.

“The male child should see chores as a normal life responsibility,’’ Adeyanju stated.

Ezeabasili Okwudili, a civil servant, said that involving male children in household chores would help break gender stereotypes.

“It will promote equality, and teach important life skills like responsibility, empathy and teamwork.

“It sets a foundation for more equitable relationships and domestic responsibilities in the future.

“My mother involved me in house chores as early as pre-school age. I was washing my socks,” he added.

Okwudili said that helping with laundry could instil a sense of responsibility and contribute to the child’s overall development. He said as the child grows older, the parent could gradually increase the complexity of the chores assigned to him.

“One way to encourage a male child to take ownership of his chores is by involving him in the decision-making process.

“As a parent, we should provide positive reinforcement and praises for his efforts,” he noted.

Okwudili added that setting clear expectations and offering the child rewards for completing chores could also motivate him. He also urged parents to lead by example and show appreciation for their contributions.

Also, Mmesomachi Anyanwu, a teacher, said that parents could involve a male child in chores by putting them in charge of their toys.

“Chores like this send the message to your child that his contribution is important.

“Boys need to learn some housework because, eventually, they are going to be on their own.

“There is nothing as pathetic as a grown man who does not know how to wash his clothes,” he said.

Anyanwu said that chores were training for house responsibilities as adults. He identified the major tasks to include cleaning dishes and sorting out clothes for washing. He opined that these were basic life skills for the upkeep and maintenance of a home, which everyone needed to know.

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Divorce from Melinda remains my greatest regret, says Bill Gates

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Bill Gates, the Microsoft co-founder, has opened up about his “biggest regret in life” — his divorce from Melinda Gates, his ex-wife of 27 years.

In a recent interview with The Times of London, the billionaire businessman described the divorce as “tough”. He revealed that it made both him and Melinda “miserable for at least two years”.

Gates, 69, reflected on their time together, saying Melinda saw him through a lot, from his early success to becoming a global tech icon.

He also acknowledged that they were both driven individuals, but Melinda took on most of the.parenting responsibilities.

“When Melinda and I met, I was fairly successful but not ridiculously successful — that came during the time that we were together. So, she saw me through a lot. When we got divorced it was tough and then she made the decision to leave the foundation,” he said.

“I was disappointed that she took the option to go off. I encouraged Melinda to be a little calmer than my mother was, but we were both quite driven. I spent more time with the kids than my dad did, but the ratio was still 10:1, with Melinda doing most things for the kids.

“We had a great time. I’m more cheerful now but divorce was the mistake I regret the most. There are others, but none that matter. The divorce thing was miserable for me and Melinda for at least two years.

“Melinda and I still spend time together as a family. We have three children and two grandchildren, so there are always family events. The kids are doing well and have strong values.”

Gates and Melinda first met in 1987, when she became a product manager at Microsoft. They married in Hawaii in 1994 and founded the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation — a nonprofit dedicated to combating global poverty and disease — in 2000.

Following their divorce in 2021, Melinda, 60, resigned from the foundation in May 2024.

The former couple shares three children: son Rory, 25, and daughters Phoebe, 22, and Jennifer, 28.

Gates is now dating Paula Hurd, the widow of former Oracle CEO Mark Hurd.

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‘Nobody hacked my IG account’ — 2Baba confirms split from Annie

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2Baba, the ace Nigerian singer, has confirmed his split from Annie Idibia, his wife.

In a now-deleted Instagram post, the ‘African Queen’ hitmaker singer announced that he and Annie had been separated for a while and were filing for divorce.

Barely minutes after the post, the 49-year-old disclosed that his Instagram account was hacked and efforts were being made to take back control.

But in a new video, 2Baba refuted earlier claims that his Instagram account was hacked. He also confirmed his split from Annie.

“Hello my people, nobody hacked my account. Na me talk wetin I want talk, you understand? I come in peace,” he said.

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As of the time of this report, Annie has yet to comment on the matter.

2Baba and Annie tied the knot in May 2012. They have two children — Olivia and Isabella.

This isn’t the first time the couple’s marriage has faced public scrutiny.

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Dami faints as Portable confronts her over infidelity

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Portable, the controversial singer, and Damilola Ajeyemi, his girlfriend, have resumed their disagreement on social media.

The drama started on Thursday when Damilola apologised to Portable and sought to reconcile after their fallout in December 2024.

In a series of now-deleted posts via her Instagram story, Damilola attributed their breakup to bad advice from a friend.

She also expressed her love for Portable, stating their relationship is personal and not a “community project”.

“99 advisers, zero helpers. Trust nobody; the unfortunate ones will advise and still talk bad about you behind your back,” she wrote.

“True love never dies. No matter what, follow your heart, and that’s what I’m about to do. God help me.

“Your relationship doesn’t need to make sense to anybody except you and your partner.

“It’s a relationship, not a community project. There’s no love without forgiveness, and there’s no forgiveness without love. It’s my happiness that matters.”

However, the friend in question denied Damilola’s claim she misled her. She also alleged that Dami had been promiscuous and involved with multiple skit makers.

“Ok, you’ve replied to me as I wanted. Aye eh ta loni. How I wish your so-called husband knows how many skit makers din enter Queen werey. Wait I they come,” she wrote.

When Portable confronted Damilola about the allegation she refused to clarify, saying she was not ready for another public embarrassment.

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But in a now-viral video, Damilola could be seen in an unconscious state lying on a friend’s lap as she was driven to the hospital.

https://twitter.com/i/status/1880187293652189674

Portable is now questioning the sincerity of Damilola’s love, calling it a “scam” and suggesting her fainting was just a tactic to avoid the truth.

“I asked her if anyone slept with her when we broke up, and she fainted. Why will she faint? No be you say you wan love me back? Before you say you no love me, now love don come,” he said.

“So love dey go dey come? Love come na scam, love no come na scam. I just asked her if they tear her or no tear her. And she fainted.”

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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

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