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7 things you should never do for man who hasn’t married you

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In relationships, it’s easy for a woman to get caught up in the excitement and emotion of loving a man. We often find ourselves willing to make sacrifices and compromises for the sake of love and commitment.

However, it’s essential to maintain your personal boundaries and protect your self-worth, especially when marriage is not yet on the horizon.

As a woman, taking certain actions too soon can undermine your worth and leave you with regret if the relationship doesn’t progress as expected. It’s crucial to prioritize your own needs, goals, and aspirations while navigating a relationship.

Without further ado, here are things you should avoid doing for a man who hasn’t put a ring on it:

  • Changing your identity

Avoid making drastic physical or personal changes just to please or prove love to a man.

The decision to alter your core identity like religion, personal values, appearance should be personal, not external pressure. Doing it for a man can lead to resentment especially if the relationship fails.

Authenticity is crucial to building a healthy relationship. A man who loves you will accept you just as you are.

  • Cutting off loved ones

A man who discourages you from maintaining a relationship with your family and friends is a walking red flag, simple and short.

So never allow any man persuade you to cut ties with them because they are your support system that will be needed for your emotional well-being.

A healthy relationship does not isolate you; instead, it enhances your life by helping you build impactful relationships.

Keep those relationships intact, you will need their love, support and guidance through life’s challenges.

  • Sacrificing your career, ambition or passion

Never put your dreams on hold for anyone, including a man who hasn’t committed to building a future with you. A supportive partner will cheer you on not discourage you.

  • Tolerating disrespect or abuse

Never compromise on your self-worth and self respect regardless of your love for him.

Maltreatment, abuse of any kind and disrespect should not be excused in a relationship and never think marriage will change these behaviours.

Prioritise your physical, mental and emotional well-being.

  • Living with him as a ‘wife’

Avoid playing the role of a wife by cooking, cleaning and managing the affairs of his house if he is not committed.

Cohabitating might seem like a good idea but it often make it difficult to set boundaries.

Also, you have no business taking up the responsibilities of a wife at his parents’ house or for his friends.

Setting boundaries is not about being rude, it’s about maintaining your self-respect and ensuring you are not taken for granted.

  • Taking loans for him

Protect your finances by steering clear of actions like borrowing money on his behalf.

In a relationship without long-term commitment, taking on debt for him could leave you shouldering the financial burden alone if things go wrong.

Let him handle his own financial responsibilities while offering other forms of emotional or moral support.

Your finances are personal — guard them wisely.

  • Having children for him

Never think of “tying down a man” with pregnancy, it is a very risky decision to take.

Giving birth is a huge responsibility that should not be shouldered by just one person. So without marriage, you risk being left to raise a child alone if the relationship falters.

Ensure you both agree on your future before taking this life-changing step.

Love is a beautiful journey, but make sure to guard your heart, finances, and future while at it.

Also, ensure the commitment, efforts, respects and sacrifices are mutual.

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Dami faints as Portable confronts her over infidelity

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Portable, the controversial singer, and Damilola Ajeyemi, his girlfriend, have resumed their disagreement on social media.

The drama started on Thursday when Damilola apologised to Portable and sought to reconcile after their fallout in December 2024.

In a series of now-deleted posts via her Instagram story, Damilola attributed their breakup to bad advice from a friend.

She also expressed her love for Portable, stating their relationship is personal and not a “community project”.

“99 advisers, zero helpers. Trust nobody; the unfortunate ones will advise and still talk bad about you behind your back,” she wrote.

“True love never dies. No matter what, follow your heart, and that’s what I’m about to do. God help me.

“Your relationship doesn’t need to make sense to anybody except you and your partner.

“It’s a relationship, not a community project. There’s no love without forgiveness, and there’s no forgiveness without love. It’s my happiness that matters.”

However, the friend in question denied Damilola’s claim she misled her. She also alleged that Dami had been promiscuous and involved with multiple skit makers.

“Ok, you’ve replied to me as I wanted. Aye eh ta loni. How I wish your so-called husband knows how many skit makers din enter Queen werey. Wait I they come,” she wrote.

When Portable confronted Damilola about the allegation she refused to clarify, saying she was not ready for another public embarrassment.

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But in a now-viral video, Damilola could be seen in an unconscious state lying on a friend’s lap as she was driven to the hospital.

https://twitter.com/i/status/1880187293652189674

Portable is now questioning the sincerity of Damilola’s love, calling it a “scam” and suggesting her fainting was just a tactic to avoid the truth.

“I asked her if anyone slept with her when we broke up, and she fainted. Why will she faint? No be you say you wan love me back? Before you say you no love me, now love don come,” he said.

“So love dey go dey come? Love come na scam, love no come na scam. I just asked her if they tear her or no tear her. And she fainted.”

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Guardiola, wife spilt after 30 years together

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Josep ‘Pep’ Guardiola, the Manchester City manager, and Cristina Serra, his wife, have reportedly parted ways after 30 years together.

According to Sport, a Barcelona-based newspaper, the estranged couple agreed to separate in December 2024 but asked family and friends not to make their separation public.

Serra was said to have left Manchester with one of their children in 2019 to return to Barcelona to oversee her fashion company.

The entrepreneur had been shuttling the two countries for the past five years to spend time with her family before they agreed to split.

It was however reported that despite their separation, their relationship remains “cordial, stable and friendly”.

Guardiola and Serra met in 1994 when they were both 23 and 20 respectively. They started dating since then

They however did not not tie the knot until 20 years later on May 19, 2014. Their union has been blessed with three children: Maria, Marius, and Valentina.

Guardiola is a former football player who made 466 appearances for clubs and country during his career.

He has also had a successful managerial career and is even referred to as one of the greatest managers in football.

Guardiola has coached in Spain, Germany, and England. He has also won dozens of trophies during his managerial career.

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I wasn’t ready for marriage when Kellyrae proposed, says Kassia

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Kassia Sule, the former Big Brother Naija (BBNaija) housemate, has revealed that she was not ready for marriage when Kellyrae proposed.

In October 2024, Kellyrae became the first married man to win the BBNaija show. The reality star took home the grand prize of N100 million.

The lovebirds got married in February 2024 after dating for 10 years.

In an interview on WithChude, Kassia said she had been eager to marry Kellyrae for a long time, but her mindset shifted in 2023.

The reality star said she realised that marriage no longer felt like fulfillment so she focused on self-improvement.

Kassia said despite her uncertainty, she accepted Kellyrae’s proposal.

“I have been waiting forever to get married to him, but he delayed, so it happened in 2024. I wasn’t surprised when he proposed but at the time he did, I wasn’t ready for marriage,” she said.

“First, I was ready, but by the time he did, I was not. Three years before he proposed, I was ready for marriage; I do not know if it was because of the pressure I was getting from my family, but in 2023, everything changed.

“At that time, I knew it was not about marriage; it was not a fulfillment. My perspective changed so I thought to be a better person before getting into marriage.

“So, when he proposed, I accepted, but in my mind, I was not sure I was ready. I was happy but confused. I told my best friend, and she encouraged me. We got married, and it has been amazing since then.”

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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

She has widespread experiences across different professions and skills, which includes experiences in; Marketing, Media, Broadcasting, Brand and Event Management, Administration and Management with prior stints at MTN, NAPIMS-NNPC, GLOBAL FLEET OIL AND GAS, LTV, Silverbird and a host of others

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