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Mother Of 5 Kids Forced To Get 9 Tattoos Of Ex-Boyfriend’s Name On Her Body Tells Her Startling Story

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Nicola Frost from Northampton, endured a campaign of horrific domestic abuse during her six year relationship with Aaron James Wharton, 31.

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Nicola Frost, 32, from Northampton, was punched, kicked, strangled and held a knifepoint during a horrific three-hour attack in 2019
A mother has revealed how her violent and controlling ex-boyfriend made her get nine tattoos of his name on her body – including one reading ‘Property of AJ Wharton’.

Nicola Frost, 32, from Northampton, endured a campaign of horrific domestic abuse during her six year relationship with Aaron James Wharton, 31.

During one brutal three-hour attack in 2019, Ms Frost was punched, kicked, strangled and held at knifepoint after her partner flew into a drunken rage following a night out.

The mother-of-five described how Wharton would ‘control every aspect of her life’ and she would need permission to go to the shops and was made to send him pictures of what she was wearing.

He also made her get several tattoos of his name or initials on her body so ‘nobody else would touch her’ because she was ‘his property’.

Wharton, from Northampton, was jailed for 21 months at Northampton Crown Court last Friday.

He was found guilty of causing actual bodily harm in relation to the attack in the early hours of February 2, 2019.

He was also handed a 10-year restraining order banning him contacting his former partner.

Following the case, Ms Frost described how Wharton had originally made her feel ‘like a princess’ before his manipulative behaviour began.

She revealed how she became trapped in a spiral of escalating mental and physical torture after he also banned her from Facebook and cut her off from friends and family.

She said: ‘The first year was perfect. He treated me like a princess. But the next five years were a living hell.

‘He just changed. I don’t know what it was. I think he waited for me to get comfortable and knew I wasn’t going anywhere.

‘There was emotional abuse – all types of abuse. He controlled every aspect of my life.

‘Even if I just went to the shop I had to ask for permission and I had to take a picture of myself and what I was wearing. If I’d done my hair and make up he would call me a slag.

‘All the years I was with him he cut me off from my family and friends.

‘If I called them I’d have to delete the call log on my phone or he’d knock the phone out of my hands and smash it.

‘He was living round the corner and could see my house from his. He would try to stop me having friends round.

‘He could control everything – where I went and who I would speak to. He would take my bank card off me. He was a 100 per cent narcissist.

‘My problem was I thought I had no one, because he made me believe I only had him.

‘I treated him like a king – I would run his bath, cook him dinner and iron his shirts. I’d do whatever he wanted.

‘But he would hit me multiple times and stepped on my face quite regularly, punch me and slap me, and throw me against the walls.

‘He gave me a black eye and split lip a few times, but I was too scared to tell anyone and he knew I didn’t have anyone else.

‘He made me get tattoos of his name on me. One was just above my bum and said: ”Property of AJ Wharton”.

‘Why would someone have a person’s name on them nine times? It’s crazy.

‘But if I didn’t do it there would be repercussions. Sometimes I’d laugh when he said what tattoo he wanted me to get and I’d get a slap from him.

‘I’m in the process of getting them covered up as I don’t need the constant reminder of him. I’ve had four done so far but it costs a lot.’

Ms Frost, who has two children with Wharton, broke up with him in June 2018 after she claims he cheated on her before he then proposed to her in a bid to win her back.

She continued: ‘Now I’ve been on domestic abuse courses I know that was one of his little traps to try to make me believe him.

‘He had always promised we would get married and this was one of his ways of keeping control on me.

‘He is a predator and very clever, he knows what he is doing. But I didn’t fall for it and we stayed separated.

‘He didn’t let me on social media during our relationship and I set up a Facebook page after we’d split up. He used one of his friends’ accounts to find me.

‘He was so angry and said: ”You’re only doing that to get f*****d”. He said no one was going to touch me because I’ve got five kids and I’m covered in his name.’

Ms Frost said she tried to remain on good terms with Wharton for the sake of their children up until the night of his most violent attack in February last year.

She revealed how Wharton flew into a drunken rage following a night out and only stopped the brutal assault when he fell asleep.

She added: ‘He knocked at my door at 3am, he looked upset so I let him in. I regret doing so to this day.

‘He punched me in the face within minutes. He put a knife to my face and cut my cheek. It was like he was possessed.

‘He was angry I was getting on with my life and he couldn’t let go. He was saying I was his property.

‘He started hitting me with multiple punches, knocked me to the floor and started kicking me. It didn’t matter if I was up or down, he would hit me.

‘I tried to protect myself by bringing my hands and arms over my face. He was drunk and if he hadn’t fallen asleep I don’t think I’d be here today.

‘I was trying to keep quiet so not to wake the two girls up – one was 16 months at the time and the other was about three.

‘But one punch was too painful for that and I screamed. He had punched my head against a wall then my head banged back against his fist in a triple blow.

‘The next thing I heard was one of my children screaming. I somehow got up and ran upstairs to calm them down.

‘I said I had been silly and fallen down the stairs. I didn’t want them to realise what had gone on because they are babies, but I think they know now.

‘The next day he acted as if nothing had happened and went into the kitchen to make the kids breakfast.

‘He later said to me: ”I can’t believe I did that to you, I’m sorry. But you deserved it.” Then he slapped me again.

‘There were bruises all over my face, arms and legs. I had blurred vision for three weeks and I think my eye socket is damaged. I still have migraine and headaches.

‘He thought I would never dare go against him in court but I stood up and gave evidence.

‘However, the sentence for this is disgusting. No amount of time can repay what he has done to me and my kids.

‘Knowing he is going to get out in a year means it is not long enough. People like him don’t change.

‘There’s no one he can’t charm and he’ll make them believe he’s changed in prison, but he’ll always be a narcissist.’

The courageous mother said she wanted to share her experience of domestic abuse to help other victims to see a way out.

She said: ‘There are so many people in abusive relationships who can’t speak out. Now I can, I am trying to help someone else by doing so.

‘People need to know the signs and see it as abuse and to not doubt themselves, follow through and get out.

‘I would love to campaign on this and raise awareness for women and men all over the world in abusive relationships.

‘I’d like to see increased funding for domestic abuse victims. There are charities like Women’s Aid but they don’t have enough.

‘It’d be great if I can help one person, but I’d like to help multiple people.

‘The effect on me has been long standing. Sometimes I don’t even trust my own family and I shudder when someone raises a hand.

‘I am now un-training myself from what he trained me to be, mainly not having to ask permission to do anything.
‘But now I can understand myself better and get on with my life because he’s in prison.’

 

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