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Seven reasons marriage proposals get rejected

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Marriage tends to be the end goal of most romantic relationships. Getting engaged and having a happy ending is the dream of every young lover.

Most ladies have fantasised how they will be proposed to by their lovers while some guys too have probably rehearsed how to pop the question.

However, not all “will you marry me?” always end happily with the expected “I do” reply. Some do end with a disheartening “no” reply.

Have you been rejected before and wondered why things did not go as planned? One of these might be the reason your marriage proposal was rejected:

  • You both have never talked about marriage

Lovers should always engage in very sensitive conversations — about the future and marriage — during the courting stage to allow a better understanding of each other’s expectations. This would also give you an insight into the kind of response you might get when making a marriage proposal.

Have you ever asked her if she would love to marry you? Have you both had a conversation about marriage? No? Then she is probably surprised you came with the “will you marry me?” question and need to think about it before concluding if she wants to marry you or not.

  • Fear of commitment

She is in love with you and happy to be with you but might just be scared to commit herself to the lifetime contract. Sometimes, this might not be her fault, it might be a result of her past or experience.

  • Uncertainty

This is one of the common reasons for rejected proposals. Some people don’t even know what they want out of a relationship so, they don’t feel it’s right to accept the marriage proposal.

Uncertainty is one of the most hurtful reasons for a rejected proposal because you thought you both have “something” together when, in reality, the other person does not see you as her life partner.

  • Financial stability

Your girlfriend might have said no because you’re not financially stable yet or even noticed you are not capable financially to be a married man. Some people feel it is terrifying to commit when they don’t have a stable job or a source of income and would rather focus on their career before commiting themselves to marriage.

  • No belief in marriage

Some people don’t believe in marriage due to certain reasons best known to them. Your girlfriend could belong to this group, so you need to find out. This group of people thinks marriage is irrelevant and unnecessary, or they may have a traumatic past that prevents them from believing in the sanctity of marriage.

  • Have not dated for long

Not spending enough time together to get to know each other well before popping the question can also be another reason for rejected proposal.

She might want you to take things easy and one step at a time. So, in order to get a “yes” from her, you might need to be patient.

  • Unromantic proposal setting

This might be a silly or funny reason but don’t be surprised it can also be the reason your marriage proposal was rejected.

Most ladies already have expectations, so they may feel bad and disrespected if it isn’t as romantic as they have imagined. In this case, she could opt for “no” if she can’t face the reality. It is therefore advisable to plan your proposal according to her personality.

While it hurts to watch the most anticipated event become a nightmare, rejected proposals happen. You only have to face the reality and move on if you’re a victim of rejection.

There are some useful tips to get over this hard situation too. They include:

  • Keep calm
  • Take your time to heal
  • Assess yourself and your relationship
  • Decide if you still want to give it another try or end the relationship
  • Talk to your partner, find out why you were rejected

Being rejected is the last thing anyone wants to experience but then it isn’t the end. The rejection might even be a good start to know and understand your partner more, to get a deeper understanding of each other’s values and priorities.

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Kazim Adeoti reveals how he handle criticism over his marriage to Mercy Aigbe

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Kazim Adeoti, the Nollywood movie marketer, has revealed how he handles criticism surrounding his marriage to actress Mercy Aigbe.

In January 2022, Mercy unveiled the filmmaker as her husband much to the surprise of many. Funsho Adeoti, Kazim’s first wife, accused Mercy of snatching her husband.

The movie producer defended his decision to marry a second wife, citing his Muslim faith.

Kazim spoke on the matter at the National Film and Video Censors Board’s (NFVCB) 4th Peace Ayiam Osigwe (PAO) Nigeria Digital Content Regulation Conference on Thursday in Lagos.

In a chat with journalists, the movie producer said as a public figure, he cannot control others’ opinions or narratives about his marriage.

Kazim added that he stays focused on his work, believing the end justifies the means.

“When you find yourself in the public domain, you cannot really control a whole lot of opinions or narratives. What is most important is for you to be focused and at the end of the day, the end justifies the means,” he said.

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Simi Drey reveals why she called off marriage to her ex-lover

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Simi Drey, the award-winning British-Nigerian radio presenter, has opened up about her past relationship and marriage that ended in cancellation.

In a recent episode of the ‘WithChude’ podcast, Simi said her friends kept pressuring her to get married, despite her parents’ warnings about the relationship.

The London-born radio presenter said after getting engaged, she realized she wasn’t fully fulfilled and happy.

Simi said her ex-fiancé wasn’t abusive or unfaithful, but she sought a marriage built on equal love and respect.

The 26-year-old actress said months after her engagement, she expressed her reservations to him, suggesting that they work on their relationship before considering marriage.

Simi said a month later, she realized that she didn’t want to marry him.

The media personality said she ended the relationship and faced criticism from her friends.

Simi, born Simileoluwa Audrey Adejumo, also said she remained single until she met her husband Julian Flosbach in 2019.

“My ex and I did not have a perfect relationship. He never cheated. He was never abusive. But you know when you are not 100% fulfilled or happy. We do live in a part of the world where marriage is heavily emphasised especially for women. My parents never put pressure on me, but I remember my friends asking me ‘when will you get married?’” she said.

“Eventually he proposed. I remember having this apprehension that is he really the person I am going to marry? I was very close to my mum. When I called her that I was engaged she said ‘Simi do not do this’. But I told her ‘no, everything is fine’.

“My mother is not that kind of person who would ever stop me from doing something or blacklisting me. But she knew that I was not feeling whole in the relationship. I called my dad I ended the call in tears. These were not tears of joy but of apprehension.

“Two months later, I called my fiance then that we should work on our relationship first and then maybe we can think about marriage. A month later, I did not feel I wanted to marry this man.

“I wanted to marry with worth. I ended the engagement with him. And I got another criticism from people around me. I had to be truthful to myself that I was not happy in the relationship.

“It was after I left that the reality hit me. I realised to be single and happy is better than be married and miserable.

…If I do not feel respected or feel a man is superior to me because of title or his finances, it is a no.”

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Chiwetalu Agu reveals how he split bills with his wife

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Chiwetalu Agu, the ace Nigerian actor, has opened up about his financial arrangement with his wife Nkechi Agu.

In an Instagram video, the veteran engaged in a question-and-answer section with his wife on who handles different financial responsibilities.

The 68-year-old film star said he provides the money to sort all the expenses while his wife’s responsibility is to pay for the bills with the money he provided.

“I am responsible for bringing out the money to pay all the bills,” he said.

“My responsibility is to buy and pay with our money baby,” Ngozi added.

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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

She has widespread experiences across different professions and skills, which includes experiences in; Marketing, Media, Broadcasting, Brand and Event Management, Administration and Management with prior stints at MTN, NAPIMS-NNPC, GLOBAL FLEET OIL AND GAS, LTV, Silverbird and a host of others

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