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Seven tips to maintain good friendship

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It is often said that no man is an island. Regardless of your career path and wealth, if you don’t have good friends, it is mostly going to be a lonely experience.

Friends are as important as family members because they tend to build one’s support system and are people that will always be there for you genuinely.

True friendships make life worth living,  so it’s important to maintain them.

Below are tips to help you maintain that worthy friendship:

  • Communicate regularly

In any type of friendship, communication is very essential. It is understandable that your job might be tasking and demanding but you should try to make time to speak to your friends via voice call or text — always reach out regularly.

  • Be reliable

Be a go-to friend; a friend they can always run to in turbulent times. True friends are the ones who are always there no matter the situation. You will have a long-lasting friendship if you’re someone people can always share their deepest pains and problems with without being judged.

  • Be respectful

I understand you’re friends and age mates but you have to respect them still. You have to respect your friends, their emotions, and boundaries. Try to always respect their decisions, avoid being in their space when they don’t want you there.

  • Be secretive

Be their confidant and secret keeper. You cannot maintain a relationship by spilling private information around. Being secretive helps build trust in the relationship.

  • Forgive and forget

In all relationships, arguments are really inevitable. Since no one is perfect so you should always try to forgive and talk to your friends about their mistakes when they offend you.

However, repetition of the same mistakes by the same person intentionally might be a sign for you to leave the friendship.

  • Be Supportive

Be your friend’s cheerleader. Everyone needs someone who will be their backbone and will always encourage them on their path to success. Being a supportive friend will help you build a good friendship because they will always be appreciative and indebted to you.

  • Be open to corrections

You should know and accept no one is perfect, including you. It is therefore important that you always strive to be the better version of yourself.

Give and receive constructive criticism, unlearn and relearn, be open-minded and try to work on yourself from filtered pieces of advice. It will be easy to maintain a friendship if your friends are not afraid to tell you the truth.

Hold on to people that contribute positively to your life as they are difficult to come by.

However, maintaining friendship shouldn’t be a one-way thing. If the other party isn’t trying then the friendship isn’t worth keeping.

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Kazim Adeoti reveals how he handle criticism over his marriage to Mercy Aigbe

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Kazim Adeoti, the Nollywood movie marketer, has revealed how he handles criticism surrounding his marriage to actress Mercy Aigbe.

In January 2022, Mercy unveiled the filmmaker as her husband much to the surprise of many. Funsho Adeoti, Kazim’s first wife, accused Mercy of snatching her husband.

The movie producer defended his decision to marry a second wife, citing his Muslim faith.

Kazim spoke on the matter at the National Film and Video Censors Board’s (NFVCB) 4th Peace Ayiam Osigwe (PAO) Nigeria Digital Content Regulation Conference on Thursday in Lagos.

In a chat with journalists, the movie producer said as a public figure, he cannot control others’ opinions or narratives about his marriage.

Kazim added that he stays focused on his work, believing the end justifies the means.

“When you find yourself in the public domain, you cannot really control a whole lot of opinions or narratives. What is most important is for you to be focused and at the end of the day, the end justifies the means,” he said.

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Simi Drey reveals why she called off marriage to her ex-lover

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Simi Drey, the award-winning British-Nigerian radio presenter, has opened up about her past relationship and marriage that ended in cancellation.

In a recent episode of the ‘WithChude’ podcast, Simi said her friends kept pressuring her to get married, despite her parents’ warnings about the relationship.

The London-born radio presenter said after getting engaged, she realized she wasn’t fully fulfilled and happy.

Simi said her ex-fiancé wasn’t abusive or unfaithful, but she sought a marriage built on equal love and respect.

The 26-year-old actress said months after her engagement, she expressed her reservations to him, suggesting that they work on their relationship before considering marriage.

Simi said a month later, she realized that she didn’t want to marry him.

The media personality said she ended the relationship and faced criticism from her friends.

Simi, born Simileoluwa Audrey Adejumo, also said she remained single until she met her husband Julian Flosbach in 2019.

“My ex and I did not have a perfect relationship. He never cheated. He was never abusive. But you know when you are not 100% fulfilled or happy. We do live in a part of the world where marriage is heavily emphasised especially for women. My parents never put pressure on me, but I remember my friends asking me ‘when will you get married?’” she said.

“Eventually he proposed. I remember having this apprehension that is he really the person I am going to marry? I was very close to my mum. When I called her that I was engaged she said ‘Simi do not do this’. But I told her ‘no, everything is fine’.

“My mother is not that kind of person who would ever stop me from doing something or blacklisting me. But she knew that I was not feeling whole in the relationship. I called my dad I ended the call in tears. These were not tears of joy but of apprehension.

“Two months later, I called my fiance then that we should work on our relationship first and then maybe we can think about marriage. A month later, I did not feel I wanted to marry this man.

“I wanted to marry with worth. I ended the engagement with him. And I got another criticism from people around me. I had to be truthful to myself that I was not happy in the relationship.

“It was after I left that the reality hit me. I realised to be single and happy is better than be married and miserable.

…If I do not feel respected or feel a man is superior to me because of title or his finances, it is a no.”

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Chiwetalu Agu reveals how he split bills with his wife

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Chiwetalu Agu, the ace Nigerian actor, has opened up about his financial arrangement with his wife Nkechi Agu.

In an Instagram video, the veteran engaged in a question-and-answer section with his wife on who handles different financial responsibilities.

The 68-year-old film star said he provides the money to sort all the expenses while his wife’s responsibility is to pay for the bills with the money he provided.

“I am responsible for bringing out the money to pay all the bills,” he said.

“My responsibility is to buy and pay with our money baby,” Ngozi added.

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Bodex F. Hungbo, SPMIIM is a multiple award-winning Nigerian Digital Media Practitioner, Digital Strategist, PR consultant, Brand and Event Expert, Tv Presenter, Tier-A Blogger/Influencer, and a top cobbler in Nigeria.

She has widespread experiences across different professions and skills, which includes experiences in; Marketing, Media, Broadcasting, Brand and Event Management, Administration and Management with prior stints at MTN, NAPIMS-NNPC, GLOBAL FLEET OIL AND GAS, LTV, Silverbird and a host of others

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