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What are the benefits of paternity leave?
Over the past years, Richard Petts, a sociology professor at Ball State University; and Chris Knoester, a sociology professor at Ohio State University, have jointly written some papers. These papers contain data of analysis from long-term surveys of thousands of American families.
Their research shows that paternity leave gives lasting benefits; not only to a father’s relationship with his kids but also to the relationship between both parents. What then are the benefits of paternity leave?
In Africa, the term paternity leave is a dream to many dads. A dream that should waste no time coming true. This is the basis for this article, in the hopes that ultimately our society is richer and better for it. Based on the research of the scientists above, we’ll be sharing some benefits of paternity leave.
What Are The Benefits Of Paternity Leave?
In their most recent paper, published in May 2019, Dr. Petts and Dr. Knoester discovered that even as long as nine years later; children whose fathers took at least two weeks of paternity leave after they were born; felt closer to their fathers. This was than children with fathers who did not take leave.
In research on married parents for a forthcoming paper, the sociologists found that even relatively short periods of paternity leave caused couples’ divorce risk to drop; and to remain significantly lower for as many as six years to come, even as their children reached school age.
There are endless benefits to taking paternity leave for the whole family – from supporting your child’s development to gaining confidence in your parenting. Here are some of the benefits of paternity leave as proven by research.
Confident parenting
A report called The New Dad: Take Your Leave; found that father-and-baby bonding during paternity leave actually improves a dad’s ability to care for children in the long term. And this means he’s a more engaged and involved parent. Being a dad who is around in those early stages gives lasting confidence to a father’s caregiving, and establishes him as an equal partner in parenting. Evidence also suggests this extra bonding time can contribute to a stronger father-child relationship later on in life.
The Benefits of Paternity leave are far-reaching and long-lasting
Paternity leave doesn’t just give you the opportunity to bond with your baby. Studies have shown that paternity leave has positive effects on a child later in life, too. The University of Oslo found that kids whose fathers took time off showed improved performance at school. And an OECD report has shown that kids have both improved cognitive scores and mental health outcomes as they grow older.
An enriched relationship between the parents
A newborn baby is a challenge; but when both parents share the responsibility, their partnership becomes even stronger. A wise man once gave a great piece of fatherhood advice. “Now I appreciate what goes into being a parent,” he said. “It’s about helping and supporting each other.” According to the sociologists’ research, men who take paternity leave are less likely to get a divorce.
Paternity leave gifts the new mother with help and rest
Research shows that when caring for their baby, more support from the father can increase the mother’s well-being. Plus, they’re less likely to experience depression after birth. Many of the fathers in “The New Dad: Take Your Leave” report agree. They believe that taking paternity leave is the best way to support your partner during their emotional and physical recovery.
Daddy is happier with the paternal bond
According to the MenCare State of the World’s Fathers report, men are generally happier and experience fewer health problems; (both mental and physical) when caring for young children. Some fathers say that sharing a bond with their child so early improved their mental health and changed their perspective on life.
Relationships
Olajumoke Onibread narrates how ex-husband assaulted and ruined her career
Olajumoke Orisaguna, the Nigerian model famously known as Olajumoke Onibread, has recounted her harrowing experience with domestic abuse.
Olajumoke rose to fame in 2016 after accidentally walking into a photo shoot with British rapper Tinie Tempah, captured by TY Bello. However, she disappeared from the public eye, leaving many wondering about her whereabouts.
In a recent interview with City FM, Olajumoke alleged that she endured a toxic relationship with her ex-husband Sunday Orisaguna.
She said they lived in Ire, Osun state before she relocated to Lagos. The model described the environment at their Ire home as “hostile”, citing her mother-in-law’s “mistreatment” and Sunday’s “physical abuse”.
She said after relocating to Lagos, she started hawking bread before crossing paths with TY Bello. She said Sunday, however, joined her in Lagos, and the alleged abuse continued.
Olajumoke said she felt ashamed to deny claims of marriage due to their two children. She claimed that her career suffered after their separation, alleging that Sunday maligned her reputation and that of her supporters.
“The time we were in Ire, we stayed in my husband’s family house and there is no way you stay in that kind of place that you would not encounter problems. My mother-in-law was very hostile towards me and I would have to close my hairdressing shop on time just so I could go make dinner at home,” she said.
“And it was whatever she told her son is what he listens to. He would not even listen to my own side of the story before he started beating me up. Whenever me and his mother had misunderstandings, he would not even listen to me before hitting me. He would beat me to the extent that my face and body would be swollen. Sometimes he would even make use of a belt. That was when we were in Ire, Osun state.
“I would hide what was happening because I did not want my mom to hear. She also lived within the same vicinity as us. Before when I go and report to her, she’ll say she did not give me out in marriage to anyone. Even my mum’s younger sister was against me marrying him, as she had lived longer in Ire than me, so she knew what she was saying. But when the pregnancy issue happened, there was nothing anyone could do.
“So my mum will tell me she did not bless any marriage and she cannot also ask me to leave there, so she did not involve herself in the issue. When he beat me, I would not be able to wear short-sleeved clothes, but long-sleeved dresses. I did not tell anyone, only those who lived with us in the house knew about it. Fast forward to January 2016 when I wanted to move to Lagos, we were frying akara for his dad’s remembrance when I had an issue with his elder sister.
“As usual, he beat me up and I decided that I was going to leave, move to Lagos, and start working at the bakery because I had been there before. The third day after that incident, I packed my load and brought my two children with me to Lagos because I could not leave them there. Getting to the bakery, I had to explain to my friend what happened and she was happy that I had finally left because she was part of the people that warned me about him.
“What I am saying now, I have never said it out before. Even when I met TY Bello and I told her that I had a husband, my friend was furious when she found out. She was like I do not have sense, why would I say someone who beats me is my husband? I had to explain that I had to say that because I have children. That was how he came to Lagos. Even in the house that was rented for me in Surulere, he would still beat me up.
“I did not even tell TY Bello what was going on. I could not even admit that we were not married. I am a very gentle person so I did not tell anyone what was going on, I was enduring all of it. Sometimes when he goes out to drink, because he is someone to have a good time, when he gets back and a minor misunderstanding happens, he would start beating me again. It is almost four years since we separated.
“While he was beating me, he did not have a job. I was the one who would go out to hustle for us because I did not want my children to suffer. He would just stay at home and sleep or go out to drink. I did not even disturb him from doing these things, I just wanted him to stop beating me. Then he also started monitoring me when I went to work. If I go for photoshoots, sometimes I come back very late. He would accuse me of sleeping around with other men.
“So I decided to finally leave him. It got so bad that he would even start insulting my parents. It was when I separated from him, that was when everything started going down the drain because he started spoiling my name. All those who had helped me then, he started saying bad things against them. Since then, things started going down.”
Olajumoke has returned to the spotlight as a radio presenter with her talk show ‘Kilon Shele’.
She disclosed that her radio show will focus on her personal story, including her experiences with exploitative managers who took advantage of her lack of education.
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Fans confused as Chike poses with mystery woman
Chike, the Nigerian singer and songwriter, has sparked romance rumours after sharing an intimate photo with a mystery woman on Instagram.
The ‘Boo of the Booless’ hitmaker posted the picture on Wednesday, showcasing the pair in traditional Igbo and Yoruba attire.
He captioned the photo: “When I wake in the morning, I thank God for you”.
However, it remains unclear whether the photo is a glimpse into Chike’s personal life or a promotional shot for an upcoming music video.
Comments like “Happy married life o,” “my man pls don’t break my heart oo,” and “omo see as my heart cut babe stop naw” flooded the singer’s page.
The development comes as a surprise, considering Chike’s previous admission that he has never told a woman “I love you”.
In a 2022 interview, the 31-year-old singer revealed that saying “I love you” makes him feel vulnerable.
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Meagan Good, Jonathan Majors are engaged
The Hollywood stars Meagan Good and Jonathan Majors are engaged.
The couple announced their engagement on Sunday at the 2024 Ebony Power 100 List event held at Nya Studios in Los Angeles.
Meagan showed off her engagement ring while the lovebirds posed for loved-up photos on the red carpet.
They also revealed why they chose the particular event to go public with their engagement.
“Ebony Power 100 is the event that we met at in the bathrooms, in the unisex bathroom,” Meagan said.
Good was married to DeVon Franklin, the US pastor and producer, from 2012 to 2021. She and Majors were first linked romantically in May 2023.
Earlier this year, Good opened up about how friends advised her about the scrutiny she could face by being with him. She also discussed how she has stood by him through his challenges.
Majors was found guilty of assault in the third degree and harassment in December 2023, following a March 2023 arrest in New York.
He was arrested after allegedly assaulting Grace Jabbari, his ex-girlfriend.
In April 2024, Majors was sentenced to one year of domestic violence counseling, which includes a 52-week, in-person program in Los Angeles. He was also required to continue mental health therapy and provide regular updates on his progress.
Also, the court issued a permanent protective order between Majors and Jabbari, with potential jail time for any violations of his sentencing terms.
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